babys dad problems

Crystal - posted on 05/20/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am currently 7 months pregnant and I'm already so stresses out about the baby's father, he doesn't work he he does drug sometimes gets high every other day drinks every weekend ect. He has been one of my friends for a long time and also my ex he is currently in a relationship with a girl who has had no respect for me she has told me to kill myself a couple months ago called me every name you could ever think of I am trying to prevent her from seeing and being around my daughter while she is at her father's, I grew up without a father and I don't want aliyah to go through the same thing so I have decided to let the father see her sometimes not all the time cause I don't want him to being doing drugs and drinking around her but I do not want this girl to be around my child he says I can not stop him from seeing his child and his women at the same time but I have told him I will not allow it. Is there anything I can do to prevent her from being around my child while she is at her father's house
house???? Please help

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Gardensparrow - posted on 05/20/2015

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Oh, that's a tough situation to be in. Custody issues can definitely be tricky, and like Raye shared, I don't know how much control you have over who your ex has with him when he's with your child. But probably your best bet would be to try and get some legal advice. I know that can by hard financially, but maybe there's a law firm in your area that does pro-bono work? There's also a group called the Christian Legal Society that you can look up online. They give referrals and may be worth checking out to see if they offer any assistance in your area. One last suggestion, just for some support during your pregnancy, you may want to consider finding a local pregnancy resource center in your area (try optionline.org to look one up). And they may also be able to offer some suggestions on other help that could be available to you right now. Just a thought. In the meantime, my prayers are with you!

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Raye - posted on 05/20/2015

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When the baby is born, you need to go to court and get custody established for yourself, and a visitation plan for the father. Unfortunately, you can't dictate who the father has with him, or what his behavior may be with the child. You can ask for supervised visits, and voice your concerns to the court, but it will be up to the judge to decide. If you are breastfeeding, that usually limits the time the baby can be with the father for the first 6-12 months. Generally the father would get only a couple hours at a time, because the baby would need you for feeding. This would give you the chance to observe how he acts with the child, and whether he's going to stick around and be in the child's life. If you are willing to allow visitation, and the court has set the terms, then hopefully the ex and his GF won't fight you.

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