Bad attituded

Amanda - posted on 02/25/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 8 yrs. old and has the biggest attitude ever! I have tried grounding her, taking away her favorite things, and not letting her see her friends. Nothing is working and now her little brother is starting to do the same thing! Any ideas on how to handle this?

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April - posted on 02/25/2009

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I have the same issue with my 8 year old girl! she can still throw a crazy tantrum, then turns around and is helpful and sweet! she has always been very independent and spirited, so this is like a glimpse of the teenage years. her pediatrition mentioned that at this age, her hormones are firing all over the place, in preparation for puberty, and that mood swings, increased appetite for spurts are normal for a girl her age. it doesnt help with what to do, but it is one explanation. keep reinforcing that she needs to be respectful of you and those around her. a great book for her age is from the american girls series - I think its called the care and keeping of you. I also do short bible studies with all of the kids, and when necessary , focus on an issue we are having at that time so that it sinks in better. when you see someone being rude or disrespectful to adults or anyone on tv, comment on it... not "wow, you do that all the time, its horrible" but maybe " how do you think shes treating him/her?" do you think she could handle that in another way? It might not be much but it might sink in better if its seen as hypothetical. definitely keep up with the consequences, or have her put a quarter in a jar when you catch her doing it. create another jar for when you catch her with a GOOD attitude, to be used later for a special outing with you and her and maybe a friend. hope that helps!

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Roxanne - posted on 03/14/2013

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i'm sorry it had to come to this but it's time for a...Spanking. not a long one, just three swatts on the buttocks, not to hard but not to soft either. OR you could ignore her attitude and turn to her brother. you also need to let her know that she is a roll model and she cant keep doing this. also tell your son:No you need to be the bigger person. i hope i helped you. :):):):):):):):):):):)

Petra - posted on 02/27/2009

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Ignore the bad behaviour. When she acts up, pay more than necessary attention to her brother and ignore her. When she quits the attitude, reward her with [short and] immediat attention. My daughter (9y) specially hates it if the attetion suddenly turns to the other children when she acts up, but she learned quickly. Still we have attitude problems, but not every day anymore, and they seem to lest shorter times.

Amanda - posted on 02/27/2009

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I really like the idea of putting the money in 2 jars one for a bad attitude and one for praising  her. I am going to try that. Thanks!

Hanelie - posted on 02/25/2009

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my 11 year old is going on 17 with a massive attitude. What works for me is the ignore the bad, praise the good method. I totally ignore the attitude but when she is good she gets a star or a sticker on a starchart. Get enough stars and something special goes her way. It seems to calm her down a bit, but I understand your frustration

Melanie - posted on 02/25/2009

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I have an 8 yr. old daughter and 4 yr.old son. She has an attitude on a daily basis and it seems to come right out of the blue. I've grounded, taken I-pods away, taken away phone priveleges and, like you, nothing seems to work. I have noticed though that sometimes she acts like or says something that she's seen or heard on T.V. I like Hannah Montana and Zack and Cody myself, but they are older and sometimes their actions are a little overboard, but an 8 yr.old doesn't see that. Just keep loving her and try to calmly talk (this is where I have problems) to her about the situation at hand. Good luck and God Bless!

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