Bad Behavior how to deal

Samantha - posted on 04/15/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son who's almost 3 years old is starting with really bad behavioral problems, he's testing me to the max he is usually a good kid so loving and sweet but his bad spots are coming more and more and getting worse by the day. I have tried being nice a have tried trying to compromise with his and I have tried time out. I'm out of ideas

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Jodi - posted on 04/15/2015

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Have you tried letting him know the behaviour is unacceptable and placing him on time out or having consequences for his actions? Rewarding for the behaviour you DO want? Being nice and compromising are not parenting to stop the behaviour you don't want. They are merely encouraging the poor behaviour.

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Sarah - posted on 04/16/2015

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Time outs work really good, but you have to put the effort into them to make them work. You may have to keep putting him in the time out spot for hours before he will sit for the whole 2 mins. But if you do that every time he has a time out he learns to sit and not get up until those 2 mins are up. Right now he knows you won't follow through so there is no reason for him to sit and stay.

Jodi - posted on 04/16/2015

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If he is hiding things that he shouldn't be getting, you need a place to keep them that is locked and he can't get to. If he is throwing things, take them off him and don't give them back. If he throws a tantrum to get his own way, do NOT let him get his way. As Sarah said, you absolutely need to be consistent. No matter how much you feel like giving in because it will just shut him up, don't.

Samantha - posted on 04/16/2015

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Thank you for poing that I have been trying to be consistent. But it is so hard to even keep him in the chair or on the corner he will keep fighting me on it for hours I have tried over and over. And now he's starting to hide things from me in his room things that are up out of his way that he shouldn't be able to get to and some of the things he bringing on aren't safe for him

Sarah - posted on 04/16/2015

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You need to be consistent. The behavior is not going to stop overnight. You state all the things you have tried.....which is good, but in the same way it sounds like you are not necessarily consistent. That is the key. If he knows that every time he does a certain behavior he gets a time out then the behavior does change but it might take months of doing that before the behavior changes.

Samantha - posted on 04/16/2015

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I know what you are saying and I have done all that I have tried time out chair I have tried butting him in his room with taking most things out but he will not stop his kicking and throwing thing and I try to be calm with him and that doesn't work and his pations with anything is ridiculous he has none what so ever. He won't even give me the time to react to what he wants or need

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