Bad Imaginary friend

Amanda - posted on 05/21/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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Im babysitting a 4 year old girl who has an imaginary friend that hits her in the face. she cries and really takes it hard it seems to happen everytime I pay attention to my daughter and she says that he say bad things to her and that his a bad boy. I dont know what to do I dont want my daughter to start saying it.

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Donna - posted on 03/24/2013

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my 28 month old son sits in his cot for hours talking and playin with something or someone wer can i find out whether its a spirit or imaganary friend

Hope - posted on 05/26/2009

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Actually I believe in the spirit world.I never seen one...but I was in a couple old houses where you literally can hear things..like once I swear I heard a little girl calling her mama.
and someone told me about this little girl who fell down the stairs this was like 1800's
But I can feel the hair up on my arms.

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Barbara - posted on 05/26/2009

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Quoting Jenn:

some people might not believe this, but kids can see ghosts. ever wonder if thats what it is instead of an imaginary friend? just an idea



I agree, especially if both children are seeing the same "imaginary friend" and he got sick and she needs to take him to the hospital.  That sounds a little like a spirit that doesn't know they've passed, not something imaginary.

Elaine - posted on 05/26/2009

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All very interesting replies....I do believe in imaginary friends because I believe that they are spirits. And maybe this spirit boy has attached himself because she is lonely or wants attention...it's supposed to be easy if a child is feeling vulnerable which is why alot of children going through puberty see / hear strange things. Conditioning of life usually takes away the ability to see these things but for now I would honestly say she's a lucky girl to have the companionship.....as long as it's NOT negative I would add! I would definitely talk to her more about him especially if your own child is picking up on it and as per the advice above try directing comments to all of them as a group and not just individual, however if she is being slapped in the face (as you originally stated) try telling off the boy whilst everyone is there because it definitely then gives a clear messages that it's not acceptable. It's all called the unexplained for a reason and GOOD LUCK!

Shelagh - posted on 05/26/2009

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hmm - kids at this age never make things up. I mean, they don't completely invent things - if she's talking about being hit in the face, it's because that's something she's either experienced personally, or has seen happen to someone else (it might have been on the TV - but nevertheless it's had an impact on her). It certainly needs further investigation.

Hope - posted on 05/26/2009

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P.S. They say kids can see things that adults can't but also I would look more into it it could be something further wrong.

Jackie - posted on 05/21/2009

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My daughter had alot of imaginary friends in an our place we lived in. It was very much real to her and I should mention we had the typical things like cold spots and hearing keys jingle at the door and no one come in. The key is not to scare any of the kids. I highly recommend you speak to Taylor the same way they do; like he is standing right there. My daughter would gab and gab away while she was suppose to be napping. I would go in and tell them it was time for her nap and they needed to go until nap time was over. And she would stop talking and go to sleep. She was only 2 years old so easily distracted to back to gabbing if she wasn't believing it. And since its a little boy you can punish him too. It might not cure whats happening but it will empower her to do the same and take control. And I would think no matter why taylor is there... emotional or ghost it should have the same effect.

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Quoting Sandie:

I have heard this train of thought before, not sure what I think on it though



oh facebook did a funny on me when i was answering this and I thought I was replying to the comment of children being able to see ghosts ............so if I don't make sense thats why :)

Amanda - posted on 05/21/2009

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I dont know the parents real well her dad works for a friend of mine and her dad went out with another friend but I heard he wasnt a nice person and I heard that her mother dont have much time for her but this is just what other people told me, they seem nice to me. when Ashley is gone my daughter will ask for Talor(imaginary friend) so he isnt around when Ashley isnt here. Right now they are playing tag with him and now there is another friend named popo and he is after Talor but I think popo is a dragon.

Jenn - posted on 05/21/2009

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some people might not believe this, but kids can see ghosts. ever wonder if thats what it is instead of an imaginary friend? just an idea

Kristen - posted on 05/21/2009

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I would consider her actions red flags ... do you know the parents really well? Sounds like a child who is dying for attention! **It has been said that young children are more in touch with the spiritual world also ... maybe she is in contact with a bad spirit in the house? That is a controversial statement, because the fact ghosts are real or not is debatable. ** If you believe in that, start asking her questions about this "bad person". BUT that could add fuel to the fire if she is making it up ... might only encourage her ... My advise, don't listen to mine! LOL

Amanda - posted on 05/21/2009

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lol she just told me that she has to bring him to the hospital because he is really sick and that he said that he is going to be a good boy now and that he is going to listen to her. so I hope that he bees good this time.

Amanda - posted on 05/21/2009

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I talked to her parents about it and no she dont have anyother siblings and she dont be around other kids very much. he has a name and its talor. They both play with him, that talk to him just like he is really there but my daughter dont say anything bad about him. I tried to talk to her about and I even told her that I sent him home and that he is never comeing back but she said that he is bad and that he wont listen to me or to her.

Anita - posted on 05/21/2009

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I think you should speak to the parents..If the little gal ur looking after is scared then u should maybe take her away from the area and speak ask more qtns..eg when adn where does she see the boy (imaginary friend) and what does he want?

I dont know about u guys but i'm a true believer of past life and othr living souls/entity and they do say that babies/young children and elderly have the ability to see them with what they call a third eye...

Sharon - posted on 05/21/2009

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You`ve mentioned that it happens when you pay attention to your own daughter, so it could be a form of attention seaking. The fact that it`s so negative, it could be an underlying problem, does she have any siblings or other children that she mixes with? Maybe she is being bullied by someone. If I were you, I would try to talk to her & your daughter in more detail about what this imaginary friend is like, or whether he has a name, maybe than you will be able to tell if it's just attention. If you don't get anywhere you really must speak to her parents about it.

Lisa - posted on 05/21/2009

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I would say to ignore it but it's something a little unusual that maybe shouldn't go ignored.. have you spoken with the girl's parents about it?

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