Bad mom

Mic - posted on 05/15/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hello mommies, I keep on reading on google to know if im still normal. I cant help but shout at my baby when im losing my temper, she loves to cry everyday every moment. One day early in the morning she cries cos she just woke up disturbed by barking dogs outside usually its just a minute she cries so i just ignored her and i went back to sleep but that morning she cried continously for 15-20mins i tried to feed her and cuddle swing her but she wont stop crying, she stopped when i put her in rocker in the terrace of my room where she can see the outside and fresh air, she stopped for a while so i went back to bed but still can see her in her rocker, she started crying again so i pick her up and decided to eat breakfast i put her on my lap while eating but she keeps refusing to her position i ignored her for a minute and continue eating but she wont stop she cries and cries and cries i really dont know what to do so i yell at her and carry her leaving my food and myself hungry. My husband work overseas so im the only one whos taking care of our baby. Everytime i lose my temper to the extent i shout at my baby and i feel so bad after an hour of realizing what i did to poor baby. Eversince i gave birth to her I cant go outside or go to the mall meet with friends even just for a day or an hour, i can leave house only when its her checkup or vaccine like that, i cant eat on time eventhough im so hungry already, cant take a bath before she turns 2mos, she always cry and wants to be held when she got bored. I was thinking, if nanny has a day off or a night off with caretaking the baby why cant mommies had a day off too. I know im selfish thinking of going out sometimes or extending my sleep in the morning eventhough shes crying already but what can i do. I also envy other moms that i talked to they look like theyre not losing temper with their babies. Its like im the only one whos doing bad things to my baby, i even spank her lightly when she was still a month or two and i cry too when she cries when i really dont know what to do anymore.

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Mic - posted on 05/15/2016

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Hi sarah, thank you for responsing. Yup Ive been reading a lot about babies feelings including what you feel can affect what she feels sometimes she calms sometimes shes not. We always go out every 5pm with stroller but she often cries in it and ends up being held. Often times shes hungry but refuses to breastfeed she keeps pushing me away then i will calm her after long minutes of crying then thats when she will feed. Im turning 26 this year.

Sarah - posted on 05/15/2016

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You need to find some support before you really do hurt her. Missed meals, no luxurious bath time, sleep deprivation; yep all goes with being a new parent. Why can't you ever leave the house? As frustrating as it can be to handle a fussy infant, it is never ok to spank her, so find a way to take a break. This is how babies end up shaken. She can only communicate to you by crying and she is telling you she needs something. Even if it is just to be held. Babies are like tuning forks for your emotions, so when you are uptight and stressed, she will be uptight and stressed. Put in a stroller and go take a long walk. How old are you?

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