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I have a little dilemma I'd like some advice about. My husband and I are going on a 6 day vacation and he secured my mother-in-law as the person who our 11 year old son will be staying with and I've never been comfortable with her ability to take care of my son and to be honest, she's never made an attempt for all these years to play the active role of grandma in his life due to my husband's sister having 3 kids and all her time has been spent helping his sister so she never had time for her other grandchildren. She takes his sisters kids to school which are all girls and they stay over at her house sometimes too so my problem that exists is that she's not the type of get on the floor and play with the kids kind of grandma and during our vacation time, our son still has 3 days of school and I am just not confident that he would be there on time or be picked up on time due to her other responsibilities and also living way across town from us. My son has a friend who's family has always loved having him over and they offerred to keep him while we are away and they take care of him just like we do and I know I wouldn't worry and my son wouldn't be calling me non-stop cause he is bored. I just want to hear that it's okay for me to feel this way about my child not staying with my MIL and staying with a friend instead since that's what he is comfortable with. He can play outside, go to the park, have awesome snacks, and just be himself and even play video games. I brought it up to my husband and he seems okay with it but I keep getting the feeling that just because his mom raised him that he thinks she is the best. There is so much more to being with your grandchildren other than watching them plus our friends live in our neighborhood and it's just way more convenient and I don't have to pack a bunch of things. I offerred for her to even stay at our house or have a key during this time to just give our son some downtime in his element and she got defensive which I don't understand. Thanks!