Joma - posted on 09/26/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )
My 7 year old' grandchild's father was just released from jail. He spent time in jail for DUI, with child in car, child restraint failure, leaving scene of accident and wrecking. This jail time was weekends only. He violated that for "contraband" (drugs) and had to spend real jail time (about 6 months). This father has been arrested for domestic violence against child's mother 3x and has done many traumatic things in front of child. Both the mother and the father are opiate addicts. The mother is currently in rehab and I have POA. The father called the other night and spoke to son about "having his bb gun and bow and arrow all ready for the weekend and that they were going to shoot birds and squirrels". My grandson had tears in his eyes when daddy spoke squirrels. I told daddy that we would need to "revisit" the visitation schedule because I was not comfortable with him having or shooting these, especially with a irresponsible drug addict - never treated. Would you allow it for your child or grandchild? He and his mom claim "he found God in jail and all is well now". I've studied this addiction for 3 years and I claim hogwash. I don't want to risk and now the fight will be on. There is no current "visitation schedule", the parents were never married, and mom has sole custody. Daddy claimed, after I said no, that "I can't keep him from his son because he's paid child support or is ordered to pay child support". Fact: he has paid miniscule amounts of child support and that started when the child was 5.