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JACINDAWILSON - posted on 11/01/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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my daughter has 3 f 2 b 2c 1d on her report card and thinks she is doing something fro b-day but then I don't want to fell like a bad mom because when I was a kid I always had a b-day party and now I don't known what to do help me !

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Chet - posted on 11/01/2014

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Have a birthday party. Birthday parties don't cause bad grades.

Talk to the school, and talk to your daughter. Figure out why she is getting bad grades. Has she fallen behind in some subjects? Does she need extra help? Is she not passing projects in? Is she skipping class? Is this not a good school for her, would she do better at a different school? Find out what is causing the bad grades, and then figure out how to fix the problem.

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Guest - posted on 11/02/2014

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Dove makes a good point--Failing grades don't happen over night. In the US most schools have something called "Parent Portal" or "Compass" that allows parents to log into their child's account and see their grades at any time. Our teachers are required to enter the grades within 3 days, so we can easily see if our child needs help long before it becomes a big problem.

Dove - posted on 11/01/2014

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Also... how old is she? That makes a difference because a little kid may not yet know the process to getting help if she is struggling (but then... that would be your job to keep on top of). By the time a child is in middle school they should be old enough to seek out assistance when they are struggling w/ a topic.

Dove - posted on 11/01/2014

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If my kids got anything lower than a C on a report card... life as they know it would be OVER for the foreseeable future... but I know what they are capable of and there's only ever even been one C on a report card... ever.

How did it get to report card time and you not know how she is doing? Do they not do mid-quarter reports? In my daughter's school they send a letter home at mid quarter if your child is getting less than a C.

Is she just not doing the work? Having 3 F's that is my assumption because if you are doing all your work and trying and still not getting at least a D... the school is failing the child, not the child failing the school.

I would not have a party. No child NEEDS a party for their birthday. A special dinner w/ the family and a present? Sure... but I would not do a party. I'd tell her she has a quarter to get those grades up and if she does... then she can have a party w/ friends to celebrate.

Guest - posted on 11/01/2014

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I don't see the connection between the birthday party and the bad grades either.
Missing the party isn't going to some how magically teach her the material she doesn't understand.

Figure out WHY the grades are low, and do something to address that problem. If she is failing because she doesn't understand the material, get her a tutor twice a week or cut out a few hours each week to work with her yourself and help her understand. If she is failing because she doesn't do the assignments, remove distractions that are keeping her from the work--no cell phone, computer, video games, TV, etc until homework is finished each night, and go over her assignments with her to make sure they are done properly. If you don't have a way to check whether she is finished or not, you might want to limit those distractions to weekends--no phone,computer, ect. during the week unless it is school related.

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