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Franchelle - posted on 01/25/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My childs father wont let go of the fact that i dont want him anymore
For almost a year my ex has been trying to get back with me although i keep telling him that i dont want to be with him anymore. When i found out i was pregnant he was being very iffy about it saying that i cheated in our relationship and that he wanted a dna test until LO was almost a month old. Now my son is 3 months and hes still trying to get back with me and im getting tired and annoyed by it. Would I be able to file harassment charges on him. I'm not trying to keep him away from his son but I'm getting tired of him asking what he did wrong and how can he make it right; saying that being together would make the family better but I don't think that a person has to be with someone if they're not happy. Also he always brings up about how his father was never in his life and how he was homeless clotheless and starving when he was little but I don't care about that because he couldve stayed with his dad and he blames him for how he is now

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Dove - posted on 01/25/2016

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If he texts you about anything other than the child... ignore it. Do not respond a single time. Maybe you can have it put in a court order what days/times he can contact you about the child (except in emergency situations, of course) and let him know that if he texts/calls you outside of those times you will not respond and may need to block his number if he won't stop.

Sarah - posted on 01/25/2016

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Somehow either he can't see your boundaries or you aren't being firm enough in setting the limits. If it would be unfortunate for you to have to file a restraining order. When you communicate with him, you can limit it to text or email only. that way you won't get tangled in a conversation and you can keep your responses focused on just your child. If you don't already have a child support and custody/visitation set and signed by a judge, then get that done. When the rules of when and where he sees your child are black and white, perhaps he wills tart to accept that your romantic relationship is over. You are correct, you can not be together and be happy and successful at parenting your child.

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Sarah - posted on 01/25/2016

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Maybe if you ignore him long enough he will stop. If not, you could ask you local police dept what options you have.

Franchelle - posted on 01/25/2016

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I do applaud him for having two jobs to support his child but today hes just been going on and on about being together talking about how God says its meant for us to be together and I told him to leave me alone, only to text me if its about the baby and also told him if I had to threaten him with harassment that I will. But he just won't stop

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