Becoming A Mother At 13

Naomi - posted on 04/17/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Commencing 8th grade , I didn't foreshadow I would graduate Middle School 9 months into my pregnancy , but life is unpredictable . My daughters father who's name I will not expose was two years older than me attending the High School , next to my middle school . Prior to him , I never engaged in intercourse , we were talking for about the majority of the summer , he would always persuade me & inflate my head with abundant of complements , I always informed my friends about him how I really like him, but I doubt he did the same amongst his peers . During the month of October , I lost my virginity to him . We had sex 3 times throughout the month . I typically get my period the beginning of the month , I didn't receive it once November arrive , but I was in denial , I thought it was just late . Later that month that when the series of throwing up occurred , that's when I registered in my brain that I could be pregnant . The first person I told was my best friend "Jade" who was in the same homeroom as me from 5th - 8th grade . She supported me throughout my pregnancy & is the godmother of Aaliyah . After school , we proceeded to dollar tree and bought 2 pregnancy tests . I went to her house to take the tests . Both of them resulted positive , I started crying & so did Jade . I was in such a petrified state .. All that was dwelling through my head is how am I going to confront my mother about this because she is a very militant parent . I notified my babies father telling him I'm pregnant , he denied it faithfully even though he was the only person I had sex with for 2 months I was practicing in my mirror how I was going to confess . I have a skinny stature so by the 3rd/4th month my mother already notice & she asked me and I admitted . She fell to the floor and started crying instantly . At that moment I wanted to die , disappointing my mother like this , Usually you hear about 15/16 & Pregnant , but at 13 no one expects that . Once she got up , I expected her to strike me , instead she consulted me and told me I made a huge mistake , but no baby is considered a mistake , and that she would support me throughout the pregnancy . People in school were already interrogating me about the situation since my baby bump was evident . Teachers were questioning me , but I didn't reveal alot to people except Jade . Throughout my pregnancy I felt like my family resented me secretly for getting pregnant at a young age despite their support . June 27 , 2011 was graduation day & was possibly the most enduring / embarrassing hours of my life , I was 9 months pregnant at 13 on stage facing multiple parents . All their eyes were gravitated towards me I could tell . I was tearing on stage throughout the whole time . Fast forward 6 days later (5 days before my 14th birthday) , I gave birth successfully to my Li Li :) [Aaliyah Janae Morgan] It was literally love at first sight , even at the moment I realized that I wasn't first no more and that I would have to provide for my baby girl . Arriving home with a new daughter was exicting , I enjoyed every cry , laugh , poop etc , I didn't care how much time it consumed out of my free time because of the unconditional love I had , still & will until my last breath . Fast forward 2 years 9 months later , Li Li's personality is evolving everyday , shes so energetic & vibrant and can already count to 10 ! As for me , I will be graduating high school early by June & start taking CNA courses , I aspire to be an RN . Today my mother told me when Aaliyah grows up she'll idolize and be proud of me for the accolade I achieved despite becoming a mother at a young age and that I'm her mother and her father , that brief statement made me tear :') . The pregnancy was one of the most enduring and darkest stages of my life , but the outcome was a beautiful baby girl I love with every fiber of my being & wouldn't trade her for NOTHING ♥

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Naomi - posted on 04/21/2014

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Appreciate your feedback , its definitely terrifying at first , but you gradually get accustom .

Amy - posted on 04/18/2014

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Im very touched by your story i got pregnant at 19 and i was terrified!
Im glad your mom was there for you 100 take care of your lidoo one and let this be experience not a mistake

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