Bed time

KMarie - posted on 08/16/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )




My 4 year old has become a great negotiator. He has worked up the skills to talk me out of his bedtime, which is at 8:30 PM. When it''s time for bed he's either hungry, itchy, thirsty, wants a bedtime story, forgot to brush his teeth or wants to give me a hug... the list goes on and on. How can I get this kid to go to bed?


Dove - posted on 08/16/2015




My son (7) and I go to bed at 7:30 because that is our time where he tells me about his day... and any other random things that pop into his head... because I lay w/ him until he falls asleep. I do it this way for two reasons... one is that 'I' need to be laying down by that time and two is that I know this way I can have him asleep by 8:30 and that gives him enough time asleep before he has to wake up for the school day. It is what works for us.

If bedtime is 8:30... bedtime is 8:30 and it's up to you to take whatever steps necessary to eliminate the last minute 'problems'. He's 4, so it's up to you to help him. Set a limit for when he has to be done eating and remind him in plenty of time, so that if he is hungry he has enough time for a bedtime snack. He can have a sippy or straw cup of water by his bed to eliminate the thirsty problem. YOU should still be helping w/ the teeth brushing, so forgetting that shouldn't be possible.. And maybe up his bedtime a little to add in enough time for bedtime stories and snuggles, so that bedtime is back to bedtime.

Stay firm and consistent... he'll get there.


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Sarah - posted on 08/16/2015




Set a certain routine and that is it... .no extras. 1 book, 1 drink, 1 hug, 1 kiss and good night and that is it.....the rest gets a no or just walked back to bed. You are the parent now you need to act like the parent.

Jodi - posted on 08/16/2015




Stop allowing yourself to be manipulated. If he doesn't get to bed on time, you move his bedtime forward 1/2 hour so he CAN get to bed on time. Make it clear, he WILL be in bed by 8:30. If he is going to stall and make excuses, he will have to go to bed earlier. Or have a set routine in place that includes all of these things in the lead up to bed time - many of the things you mentioned should be part of a well established bedtime routine anyway. It's not like you should be just saying "okay, it's 8:30, time for bed". You should actually be supervising a decent routine that includes a quick supper, cleaning teeth, heading to bed, sitting in his bedroom reading a book with him, then lights out (or something like that).

But honestly, you need to learn to say no too.

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