Bedtime appropriate for 21 month old

Nora - posted on 01/23/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son is 21 months old. He typically takes a 2 - 3 hr afternoon nap usually starting at 1:00. I was putting him down to bed 4.5 hrs after he woke from nap and he usually fell asleep within 30 minutes. Yesterday he woke at 6:15 am and was alseep at 12:55 and I woke at 4:00. I put him in bed around 8:20 and he took until 9 pm to go to sleep. Do you think it is better to wake him from nap at earlier time to get an earlier bedtime or have his bedtime later? I prefer he sleep later in the morning but I am not sure that will actually happen. He is usually up between 6-6:30. I posted earlier and 6 moms were nice enough to reply - thank you. I'd love to hear more comments on this. If we are trying to keep consistent bedtime, how can you if his nap varies by an hour on some days? Do you recommend keeping bedtime the same, regardless of the length of the afternoon nap? I appreciate any input here.

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Ambra - posted on 01/25/2013

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Keep the same bedtime just shorten is nap. Still start it at the same time just wake him up early. We had the same issue with our son and this worked. It will take some getting used to. Since he stays awake for 45 mins I would cut his nap by 30 mins. Good luck

Elfrieda - posted on 01/25/2013

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I would keep the same bedtime no matter what the naps looked like that day, maybe 1/2 hour earlier if he has had a terrible nap day. I heard a rule, no napping after 4 pm. And I think the normal bedtime is between 7 and 8 for that age. When my son was that age, he had a nap from around noon until 3 or 4, and it all seemed to work smoothly if he started his nap between 11:30 and 1. After 1 it was too late and we'd have a miserable rest of the day.

If he normally wakes up at 6 or 6:30, I don't think you can make him get up any later than 7, that would be too mean. Probably I'd start with 6:30 as the earliest he can wake up (maybe turn on a light somewhere as a signal for him) and 7:30 or 8 as the latest you'll allow him to sleep in. Some people are just early risers, it's programmed in. But I might look at the sunrise time and say, "We get up when the sun wakes up" if that's a convenient time, and leave him in his crib or room until the appointed time. We did that with my son, only to find winter comes and the sun doesn't come around every day, and too late anyway! :P It was a bit confusing to him, but we just dropped the sun talk and we'll start again in the summer.

Nora - posted on 01/25/2013

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Thank Dove. How old is your child? I know it must sound a bit anal, to have a spreadsheet on sleeping patterns but one of the reasons I do this was because my son had colic when he was an infant and the pediatrician and sleep specialist both said to do this so I could sleep train him. He went 37 hours straight, with out any sleep at the beginning. I almost died!!! I was able to train him well with extinction and a few other sleep specialist's tips. Now I just would like a more consistent bedtime and wake up time so I can rely a bit more on a schedule. So many moms have different advice so I like to hear them. When you say keep bedtime the same, do you mean within 10 minutes, 15, 30, at night, regardless of the length of nap? to answer your question, he was rolling around, talking, etc. for the 45 minutes the other night.

Dove - posted on 01/23/2013

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'I' wouldn't do a later bedtime. If a later bedtime works for you... go for it. If a later bedtime doesn't work for you... wake him from his nap after 2-2.5 hours. What was he doing during this 45 minutes that he wasn't sleeping? If he was crying or making trouble... waking him from his nap earlier or putting him to bed later might be a good solution. If he was just quietly playing around in his bed/room.... I probably wouldn't change a thing.

A spreadsheet of his sleep patterns? Wow... that's pretty organized. ;)

Nora - posted on 01/23/2013

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Last night I did keep bedtime the same after having a 1 - 4 pm nap. It took him 45 minutes to go to sleep.Do you think a 3 hr nap is too long to put him to bed around 8/8:15? I keep spreadsheet records of his sleep pattern and it appears he isn't really tired at 8/8:15 when he sleep a 3 hr nap til 4 pm.

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