bedwetting at 4 years old

Jamie - posted on 10/29/2009 ( 36 moms have responded )

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My daughter still urinates every night, once if not twice. We were using pull-ups, but want to get her to stop peeing in her sleep altogether. The wetness doesn't wake her up. I take her to the bathroom before I go to bed(11pm) but she still pees after that. Any suggestions?

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Nadia - posted on 08/07/2012

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My son just turned 4 this weekend and he was fully potty train but then all of a sudden last week, he wet the bed for the first time and now these past 3 nights in a row, he's wet the bed. I really appreciate all the advice you guys have given and I'll check with the dr. to see if he has a UTI but if not, I agree, patient is best. I like the chiroprator advice so I'll check that out too but what I really wanted to share was advice I was given by a fellow mom:
....Make the bed twice - meaning, put down a waterproof mattress pad, bottom sheet & top sheet (as per usual), then put ANOTHER waterproof mattress pad, bottom sheet and top sheet right over that. This way, if your child wets the bed during the night, you can just take the 3 top layers off and, voilà, the bed is already made! This helped me so much in the middle of the night...I can then just throw wet sheets/pj's, etc. into the washing machine and in the morning, I can just put the clean top layers back on. Anyways, thought I'd share! Hope this helps and Good luck.

Melissa - posted on 01/16/2012

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My sons almost five and I've tried everything. Hope I find an answer Here too!

Danielle Renee Aka Lilbit - posted on 11/09/2009

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take you child to see a doctor she could have a kidney or bladder problem , and if you already talked to a doctor and she is fine then now its time for some tough love nothing to eat or drink after 7pm and get her up at 12 am or 1 if you can that should change things

Patricia - posted on 11/07/2009

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My daughter is almost 5 and we still use goodnights on her. She is doing much better and five nights out of six will wake with a clean "diaper". Your daughter might just be a heavy sleeper and not able to wake herself up. She will grow out of it....patience.

Tyana - posted on 11/06/2009

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Thank you ALLL!!This has really helped me because I know I am not going through this alone.I have a 3,4,and 5 yr old, and out of them all my 5 yr old pees in the bed more than the 3 and 4 yr old.Lately I have been cutting out their drinking time to nothing after 5:30 in the evening and I take them to the rest room before bed and i set my alarm clock to 3:30 am and take them then.Even though it is tiring for me the clean sheets are worth it.It has been working more than not especially for my 5 yr old that was the worse.So keep me in your prayers and I will pray for you all as well.BEDWETTING WILL NOT WIN!!!LOL

Tricia - posted on 11/06/2009

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My rules and guideline...

1. Be patience
2. Don;t put her down..... comments like "oh well maybe next time....
3. Use rewards... like special pretty knickers... thats she can pick herself...
4. No drinks 2 hours before bed.....
5. Get her to use the toilet at least every 15-20 minutes an hour before bedtime (she may not be completely emptying her bladder....
6. Star charts are alway good too...

After a couple of weeks... if there is no improvement at all... then get a little tough... show a little disappointment.....

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then if still no improvement many see a doctor..... if her urine is strong ... see doctor how.... and watch the amount of nature suager she has ... like bananas.... they can make you have high sugar... which will make her pee heaps...

Good luck...
Mother of 4

Sophie - posted on 11/06/2009

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Hi, my step son is 8 and still has major bed wetting issues. He's only with us every other weekend and my partner and his mum dont communicate very well so it's been hard to know what is going on when he's at his mums. Luckily me and her now talk and she is taking him to see a cranio oestiopath. He hasn't wetted the bed for a whole week now and his asthma's improved! Cranio oestiopathy can be used for many things and is very non invasive. He also lost his step sister (my baby) 7 months ago. He talked about her in the session and got a few things off his chest. There may be emotional issues with bed wetting and children can find it difficult to express their feelings, especially to the parents as they dont want to dissapoint. I've had it too and found it AMAZING. helpped me with depression and all sorts of old injuries. It can be expensive but it is so worth it.

You could also try an enuresis nurse who is specially trained to help children who wet the bed, they have lots of helpful ideas.

I dont think it's right to just let tem "grow out of it" there are so many things you can try it's just gettting the right methods for that child. Now that me and his mum are actually tackilling this things are getting better. It takes dedication and persaverance. These sorts of things can really damage a childs confidence in the early years which will in turn be carried through into their adult life. Doctors dont know everything! Remember that!

Mahogany - posted on 11/05/2009

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Unfortunately, there is nothing you can really do. My son is 8 years old and still nothing has help. I have tired everything there is to try. The doctor says that everything is normal and that he will eventually grow out of it. He can sleep through anything. I wake him many times a night and he still somehow manages to wet the bed. I thought that not using the Goodnites would help but really it doesn't. I have to just show him love and make sure he is comfortable. I know this doesn't help, but just give it time. Girls seem to grow out of it faster than some boys.

April - posted on 11/04/2009

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My mom used to limit drinks about 2 hours before bed. Sometimes their bladders do not grow as fast as their bodies. It just happens. She will outgrow this in time until then try not to worry so much. It will just make her more worried about something she really can't control. Good luck:)

Rhonda - posted on 11/04/2009

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I have a son who is almost 9. He still wets the bed occasionally. The doctors told me because he such a deep sleeper and his bladder is small that this can cause problems. They say he will eventually will grow out of it as well as set up a daytime routine of going to the bathroom every half hour to retrain his bladder during the day as well as limit his fluid intake to almost nothing after 6. Hope this helps.

Kristy - posted on 11/04/2009

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My son was doing the same thing up till 5 years old. We found out he had sleep apnea because he would struggle when the urge would start to occur but could not physically wake himself up from a deep sleep to use the bathroom. We sought a lot of medical advice and had his tonsils removed. The problem stopped immediately.

Jenn - posted on 11/04/2009

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Quoting Agnieszka:

My daughter wet the bed until she was 8. I had tried everything from waking her at night to taking her to the toilet, no drinks before bed time, etc. None of this worked and so I had a chat with our GP when she was 6 and was told she would grow out of it. So by the age of 8 when it was still happening, I asked for a referal to see a paedatrician. He gave her a bedwetting alarm and a diary that she had to fill in every morning and explained to her that her brain needed to make the connection with her bladder when it felt full. I was skeptical...It took about 2 weeks for her to fully stop wetting and by about 3 weeks she was dry every night and has been ever since. I was amazed at how well this worked as she too is a very heavy sleeper.


I was a bedwetter as a child and that was the only thing that worked for me - an alarm!  Worked like magic :)

Carla - posted on 11/04/2009

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my daughter finally stopped wetting the bed, she is 4 1/2, we were using pull ups at night, she was wearing them for about a month before I had the courage to let her not wear one to bed fearing she would wet at night. I talked to her doctor he said 1 out of 3 4 year olds still wet the bed so it didnt bother me so much when I heard that. Just keep using pull-ups to save yourself from laundry every day and go with the flow, she will grow out of it with time

Agnieszka - posted on 11/04/2009

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My daughter wet the bed until she was 8. I had tried everything from waking her at night to taking her to the toilet, no drinks before bed time, etc. None of this worked and so I had a chat with our GP when she was 6 and was told she would grow out of it. So by the age of 8 when it was still happening, I asked for a referal to see a paedatrician. He gave her a bedwetting alarm and a diary that she had to fill in every morning and explained to her that her brain needed to make the connection with her bladder when it felt full. I was skeptical...It took about 2 weeks for her to fully stop wetting and by about 3 weeks she was dry every night and has been ever since. I was amazed at how well this worked as she too is a very heavy sleeper.

User - posted on 11/04/2009

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Start to limit the intake of fluids after dinner. When it gets closer to bed (2 hours) dont tell her she cant have it because it is going to be a big fight and she will win. Try to take her mind off it when she asks for it and if she keeps it up get the tiny cups you see at the doc. let her have one 1/2 full she is only 4 she doesnt need a big glass of water.

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Been there ..done that... nothing helps, my son is grown now, but they will out grow it when it's time. please love them and tell them it isn't their fault and go on with life as it wasn't even a issue.sometimes it's all the attention they get...good or bad attention.just ignore it and live life!!I know how hard it is!

Vui Hin - posted on 11/02/2009

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Dear Jamie, my son used to unrinate every night until he was in his early teens. How I had wanted him to stop wetting his bed before he turned 4, I thought there was something amiss in him, anyhow, it took him more 11 to 12 years to stop. I used to worry about him, too, but he has out grown his bad habit. Worry not, take it easy on yourself and your girl...

Jessica - posted on 10/31/2009

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My daughter still wets the bed and, much to my dismay, she sleeps just fine with wet panties. It doesn't make her wake up or think it's gross or anything. ={ Finally I gave up (I was sick of washing sheets EVERY DAY!) and started using pull-ups on her, purely for my convenience so I had less mess to clean up. I was spending tons of money on those things, though, and discovered that I can use regular diapers (I use Parent's Choice from Wal-Mart) and she can leave the tabs attached and still pull the diaper up and down like pull-ups if she wants to. It's been a huge savings for me during tough economical times. I'd also like to look into cloth diapers and plastic pants, just in case the wetness does hopefully start bothering her again one day.

Prachi - posted on 10/30/2009

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dont worry !!!!! 4 yrs is a short time to decide ....... at times their muscles r week even my daughter also used to pee even at the age of 5 .......... but now she is fine

Pamela - posted on 10/29/2009

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Yes I had that same problem when my daughter, she was in grade school and wetting the bed still. I took her to the Chiropractor and it stopped. My mother-in-law said my husband used to wet the bed when he was older and she took him there. Hope it works for you!

Jamie - posted on 10/29/2009

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Thanks for all the suggestions. We will definitely be patient, and I do know that she will grow out of it one day. In the meantime, waterproof mattress pads are our best friends!

Martha - posted on 10/29/2009

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One of my daughters loved to help in the kitchen. When she was in the toilet training stage, we made regular size Snickerdoodles and also some very small Snickerdoodles. The smaller ones were put into a Zip Lock bag and placed on a high shelf in the bathroom. When she was successful going to the toilet in the toilet she received one of the small Snickerdoodles. She had great success.

Part of her success was from her own determination. She also had a vested interest in her small Snickerdoodes as she help to make them.

Often the daytime good, positive experiences will help to eventually overide the night time ones of bed wetting.. Limiting fluids for a period of time before bed along with toileting before she goes to bed may also help. I worked for 32 years with the developmentaly disabled. We had what is known in the field as Rhythm of Life activities. Simply put this would be toileting upon arising, toileting following each meal, toileting before leaving the house or or starting an activityat the house, toileting upon return to the house or at the end of the activity throughout the whole day. I know it sounds like over-kill but once the patterns are in place and independent toileting starts to happen, often simple reminders are all that is needed. The other big key is consistency...doing things basically the same all day/eve every day as well as praise for successes.

Rama - posted on 10/29/2009

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I have the same problem with my 5 year old daughter. Her pediatrician keeps telling my it's normal and nothing to worry about. She will eventually grow out of it! Hope so.

Lisa - posted on 10/29/2009

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my concern is that she also has accidents during the day and doesnt seem fazed. She will stay in the wet clothes at school, on the bus and basically anywhere. Her pee really smells after a while. She reminds me of the homeless people we used to see in Boston Garden when I was growing up. I keep trying to tell her we wont be angry but she needs to go change.

Maria - posted on 10/29/2009

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Don't worry, she will outgrow this problem. My son went through this stage, and the best thing to do is stay calm and practice tolerance. It can be frustrating, and sometimes, our frustration can reflect on our kids and it stresses them to the point of aggravating the problem. So, take heed to all the ladies' suggestions, we've all been there. It's tough, but you'll overcome.

Lisa - posted on 10/29/2009

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my daughter is 6 and still wets the bed. We have been to the urologist, for a mri and to therapy. All that has come out of it is there is a slowness in the maturation in the connection from her brain to her bladder. They all tell me not to worry about it yet. Iti s frustrating. She smells

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Hi

Just went to a potty training course ( yes they do exist) check out this site www.pottytraining.com.au. Has heaps of aids and early start potty training book might help ( I havent read but have ordered) Good Luck

Laurie - posted on 10/29/2009

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We have the same problem with my 4 year old son. I have come to the conclusion that he just isn't ready yet, we do limit drinks before bed and I make him go a few time with in the last hour before he goes to bed, and he still has accidents, making charts and rewards has had the opposite effect because he gets very down on himself for being wet in the morning and I really believe it is just out of his control right now, so we are being patient and being positive about the days he is dry and don't dwell on the days he is wet. good luck!

Maureen - posted on 10/29/2009

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No fluids about 60-90 minutes prior to going to bed. My step son wet his bed until he was 9 and it drove me nuts. Sometimes they are just sleeping so hard they can't pull out of it. I would leave the pull-ups on until she is able to wake herself to go to the bathroom. Success Charts, incentives, etc. may help. Anxiety can be a cause of this as well so make sure she is ok otherwise.

Debby - posted on 10/29/2009

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try nothing to drink a couple hours before her going to bed too. My Mom use to make us stop going in mid stream to help strengthen our control. Although we eventually grew out of it, sorry to say, but I was like 7. All children are different, maybe try cloth diapers with rubber pants, personally pull-ups are so much like diapers..they don't feel all the wetness for them to feel what they did anymore than the diapers did.

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First of all, she will outgrow this problem. They have a heavy sleep that makes it hard to wake up. Rewards generally don't work because it is hard to change this pattern until the body matures it's sleep pattern. But you can do things such as:Yes, limit all drinks 3 hours before bedtime - water only. When I say limit, if the kid is thirsty, let her have a very small dixie cup size of water otherwise just remind her no drinks before bedtime. They make a device to put in bed which sets off an alarm when it gets wet, these can help the kid learn to wake up which helps break the heavy sleep cycle and can help train the body. Have the kid checked out by doc just to make sure no UTI (urinary track infection) or other medical reason is causing problem. But rest assured, I know a lot of kids who had this problem growing up and I promise that none of them wet the bed as adults. So time and patience is the best thing to have to solve this problem.

Melissa - posted on 10/29/2009

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My son is going to be 7 in a couple of days and he still wets the bed some nights. What I do is, stop his drinking about 1.5 hours before bed, wake him up before I go to bed (which you do). The doctor told me that he just has to grown out of it. The other thing he said is that he can give me a prescription for an alarm that they wear in their underpants that goes off when they start to wet. However, I opted not to get it because it won't go off until he wets and by that time it's too late. Best of luck!!

Latasha - posted on 10/29/2009

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my 7 year old still wets the bed at night. i still use the underjams for her. the doctor says there is not much more we can do she will grow out of it when she is ready!

Samantha - posted on 10/29/2009

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my son is five and still wears pull ups at night as he wets bed abot four or five times a week even with no drink after dinner waking him up when i go to bed etc. the wetness does not wake him. any suggestions? tried reward charts etc!! x

Tina - posted on 10/29/2009

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nothing to drink 2 hours before bed. Waking her up 1 more time during night . Make sure she does have a UTI

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