Bedwetting at Night

User - posted on 04/26/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I recently thought if I took my 4 year old daughter out of pull-up at night but wake her up during the night to make her go to the bathroom. I could get her broken from peeing on herself during the night. This work a couple times but she started peeing before I woke her up. She had no idea she had peed on herself during the night. She has been potty trained for sometime as far as during the day beside an occasional accident at daycare. I don't know what to do. I have asked her doctor about this and he said she just has to learn. I cut her liquids off at 6:30 or 7:00 I make her go to the bathroom several times before bedtime. My olderst daughter was not like this at all. I think she may have an overact bladder at night. Any suggestions??

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Medic - posted on 04/26/2011

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Just put her in pullups. I thought I could do the same with my four year old but it was not worth the effort and we were both grumpy in the morning. He is 4.5 now and just a few months ago he started waking up on his own to go then after a few weeks we took the pull ups and have never looked back. My son sleeps like the DEAD. I can seriously vacuum his room and put his laundry away all while he sleeps. He was fully trained during the day by 24 months, through naps at 3, and the night time came. I don't think I would jump to conclusions of over active bladder she is still little. There is NO shame in pull ups so please just let it go for now, she will get up when her body tells her to and she is ready to.

OhJessie - posted on 04/26/2011

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My suggestion; allow the pullups as night peeing at 4 is an involuntary action and you can't really hope to stop it by waking her up. My daughter was always a heavy night pee'er and she really couldn't stop until she hit about 7. There was nothing she could do about it and nothing I could do; so I merely taught her how to clean up her sheets and put them in the laundry, strip the bed, and get rid of the underpad when she outgrew the pullups. No sense getting her all upset or worried about it when it isn't her fault :) (Cutting off liquids does no good and you just end up with a thirsty child in a wet bed. Same with making her pee before bed; if she's a bedwetter that's pretty much how it's going to be until she outgrows it. And she will!! (I'm not sure what the doctor meant by having to learn, but you really can't unlearn an involuntary activity, any more than you can learn to control one.) They all grow out of it eventually, unless there's a physical problem. Fortunately the doctor seems to have ruled that out, so you're in good shape.

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Jodi - posted on 04/26/2011

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That's great that the alarm seemed to work!! It didn't work for my step-son.....we've tried EVERYTHING, nothing works. I guess he won't still be peeing the bed when he gets married.

Shannintipton - posted on 04/26/2011

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I agree with the alarm for age 4 probably too young. I guess I am just so proud of my 8 year old FINALLY going threw the night I got carried away. I wouldnt worry about a 4 year old. Sorry for the advice. {:+)



P.S. I was getting pressure since he was four from MIL too. So I wasnt sure how serious some moms can be. Sorry.

Jodi - posted on 04/26/2011

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Just keep her in pull ups. Everyone is different. My step-son is still wet at night and he is 11!! Okay, he is an extreme case, and nothing has worked, but we know he will eventually grow out of it, but 20% of all 5 year olds still wet the bed at night reasonably regularly, did you know that? Your daughter may just not be ready. If she is still wetting regularly by the time she is about 6, you should take her to the doctor to have a check up to ensure there is not a medical issue for it, and you can start trying some of the other measures, but right now, I would say just let it slide and wait it out.

OhJessie - posted on 04/26/2011

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Heh; I don't recall such alarm systems existing when my daughter was little (if there were I never heard of them) but for a child hitting the age of 6 and 8, that sounds like a decent idea to try. At 4 I wouldn't bother and it might just upset her.

Jenn - posted on 04/26/2011

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It's more than likely that she is just a deep sleeper and doesn't wake up from the sensation of having to go pee. I wet the bed until I was 13. :( I wish we'd found the solution much sooner than we did, but what finally worked was an enuresis alarm.

Constance - posted on 04/26/2011

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I have done a lot of research on bed wetting because my sonis 10 and he still wets the bed..
This is what I have found out. We all have hormone in our brain which is an anti dieretic it slows our our producetion of urine when we sleep. In children this chemical does work properly. So it doesn't matter if you stop giving them liquids atnoon eveydaay they are still going to wet the bed. But when I finally took a pull up off my kids at night is when they slept through the night for about two monthes and woke up dry. But for my son I have had him Goodnights eveynight fo years. It has help him feell better that not everything was comepletely wet. Most kids grow out of it by the age of six but about 2% of kids that wet the bed continue o wet the bed until age 19. Remember she isn't doing anything wrong and make sure she knows there is nothing wrong with her. Just keep her in her pull up and you can wake her up to try to train her brain to respond when her bladder is full. She will grow out of it it just takes time.

Shannintipton - posted on 04/26/2011

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Hi Cheryl,
My son is 8 and still had accidents at night. Ugh. We finally bought him an alarm system. After two weeks he does not have any nightly accidents. The first week was a nightmare. But it slowly got better. The first night it did not wake me or my son up only my husband. (Which I thought was funny) but each night it got better and better. Then no accidents and now no alarm. We bought it on line for about fifty dollars. It will more than pay for itself in no time. Just a thought and good luck. {:+)
shannin tipton

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