Yolanda - posted on 11/15/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )
i have 2 children, my son is 10 and my daughter is 7. in 2007 i endded the relationship between me and my childerns father. at that time he began visitation with them but after 5 1/2 months he stopped utilizing his time with them. i quickly noticed a change in our daughters behavior that distirbed me. 1 day while taking a bath our daughter told me that her dad had been touching her private ( she didnt use that word tho). I called CPS and reported what i was told. Needless to say the case was closed due to my daughters lack of varble skills( she was 3 at the time). When i told their dad he did not deny it all he said was, " how can i be doing that if i dont even see them anymore?". I didnt know what to do after that. I assumed since I had reported it to CPS and they did not further it and their dad was not even in contact with them then I had them safe. 4 months later i was served with child custody papers from their father. At our custody hearing the judge ordered tempory visitation with their dad and set a mediation date. i had no choice but to end my kids. Then 4 months into the visits I caught my kids inappropriatly touching one another. When i questioned my daughter she said her brother told her to. When i asked my son why he told his sister to do that he said he didnt know why. I asked him how he knew about that kind of stuff he told me that his dad had done it to him and explain the whole insident. I contact police and reported CPS once again only this time my son was the victim. Sadly enough that case was also closed due to lack of evidence. So my kids had to still go visit their dad. Then at our next court date my ex was granted custody of our kids because of a past petty thieft case i had and the continueing conflict between me and my family was putting them in danger. I then was ordered supervised visits with my kids. mind u i had no past about violence against me or any other criminal charges other then my petty theft. I also was ordered to complete a parenting program, anger management, a pychological eval and attend individual counseling. I completed all rather quickly but the pychological eval took me a little while to complete because of financial costs it entitled. 2 yrs later i recieved a call from my kids dad saying that he had to fie a police report against his step-dad because our daughter told his wife that his step dad had been mollesting her. His step dad was arrested and the district attorney was reviewing the case. The district attorney decided after interviewing the kids that they seemed confused and felt that he would not be able to prove beyond a resonable doubt that he would be able to charge the step dad. The case was also closed with the same reason as the previous case. I now have a resonable amount of time with my kids but and thing have been going ok. Then yesterday i recieved another cal from my ex where he told me that he had filed another police report against his step dad because our son told him that he was also touched by the step dad during the time our daughter had been. This police report was not going to be pushed further because the officer that took the report said that the statement my ex gave was not the same one that our son and from what our son reported to her there was no crime commited. I am so torn and angry with the whole thing. If anyone can give me some advice on what i can do to make sure that this does not happen to them again? I would really appreciate any help. Thanx.