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Ok question! I just found out I am pregnant. Me and the Father are not together anymore. But he still wants to be a part of the childs life. But this is the issue, he wants to help out, but when and HOW he wants to. I am eating voraciously at this point and I know my grocery/ordering bill will get crazy. I asked him for money so I can spend on food(cooking, ordering, etc.). I even said he can set up a baby account that he can put money in and look at the expenses to be sure they are being spent on baby stuff. He replied: I will bring you food and said he would "think about" the baby account. I tried to explain that the baby will not wait until he gets off work to come by. That if I don't eat right away I get dizzy and light headed. He said he will come by more often. That really irritated me because since we are not living together there is no way that he will be with me all day or in the middle of the night when the baby wants food. And money will help supplement his lack of being able to run out and get me food. I just didn't like the tone. I have never extorted him for money or ever tried to "get" money from him. So this was offensive. I told him forget it and I would just take care of it. Overall he is a good guy but it makes me want to immediately put him on child support and ignore him until Im 8 months pregnant. But I don't want to set a harsh tone when we just found out last week! But I don't want to be subjected to his ridiculous behavior or stress out because he is being offensive. Thoughts? Advice?