Behaviour Issues and change in School

Mariya - posted on 11/03/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi,
I have two boys 11.5 and 6.5 years boys. Recently we bought a new house and they asked us to change their school to our nearby school. As we did that, in the last two months; my 6.5 years old son behaviour in school has changed dramatically. He is getting mad and angry for anything that is against his wishes at school and then swearing and not following the teacher or principle instruction. He wanted to leave the school for couple of times so there is a safety issue too. Apparently he is not happy with his teacher. In one example he claims he fought with another kid but the teacher only punished him and that is why he got mad. He could not make the connection with his teacher and say he does not like her. He is very clever and ahead of his age in terms of reading and math and soccer and swim.
But he does not respect the adults and if something happen in even soccer, and the coach asked both boys to stop, he will be the one that get mad and angry and changes his face and does not go for the play again while the other boy easily accept, apologise and join the game again. This happened in other sport classes and apparently this year in school. He always want to be winner and leader. His Kindergarten teacher controlled him last year with giving him responsibility of e.g. cleaning or collecting the chairs but this did not work this year in new school. He had only couple of incident last year but this year especially in the last two weeks, every single day the school called us.
He had fought with teacher, substitute teacher, principle and vice principle, librarian and grade 7 girls who is supervising them during lunch time. It started with small incident at the start of the school year but getting worse as after he wanted to leave the school the principle asked someone to supervise him. It seems he understands he is under surveillance and supervision but it has not changed anything and now he started swearing to kids and adults and use the bad words.
What I am seeing is that he is not my two months ago boy. At home he is OK although has some fight with his brother every now and then. He used to work in mine site week in week out but changed it to two weeks in two weeks out due to work condition from two months ago. He and his brother are daddy’s boy, especially him. We though there is very tension in his school given he knows he is under supervision, and let’s change his school but afraid if we do this he will repeat his behavior in new school too.
So he is swearing, using rude finger, yelling, throwing things, etc. but two months ago he was a normal boy.
I beg you to help me as I am desperate and do not know what to do.

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Roberta - posted on 11/04/2016

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As a prior military family we've had to switch our kids from school to school at times. I know it can be hard on them when things change and they don't want it too. With my daughter, I had to sit down with her and make a list of things she liked and things she didn't and then work on seeing how we could maybe make some things better for her and make the change not so drastic. For example, I would schedule play dates with her old friends just so she didn't feel completely uprooted. She slowly adjusted to the changes. Don't give up and try not to be to hard on yourself, change can be hard for everyone.

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