being a dad

Jeremy - posted on 03/19/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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and paid my child support I'm not a deadbeat dad I've been paying for 15 years my ex is all about money and how she can manipulate my daughter into hating me what do I do to help myself and not be put out as a deadbeat dad I always tan and never will not Pay I just want to be fair

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/24/2014

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Then go to court. It may be to late, but make a genuine effort.

Jeremy - posted on 03/24/2014

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You don't kow anything I see my daughter as much as I can but my ex denies her most of the time I went from every weekend to many twice a month.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/20/2014

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If your daughter is 15 years old, I am sure she has her own phone. Call it. Make plans with her.

Where have you been? How often have you seen her? How much effort in the last 15 years have you put into building a relationship with her? Don't just tell me the mom has discouraged it for 15 years. There is more to being a dad than money for sure.

Your ex has essentially been a single parent this whole time?

Jodi - posted on 03/20/2014

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Unfortunately, because you never went to court and got visitation/custody orders, this has allowed her to do what she likes. It's probably too late now, it is something that should have been done right from the beginning and this would have been avoided. I know that isn't helpful to you now, but it's just that there is very little you can do.

All I can say is that your daughter may grow up a little and figure it out for herself later. She may come back to you. You can hold out some hope for that.

With regard to the child support, it isn't to late for that to be formalised. If you are just paying her whatever she is demanding and you feel it is too much, you CAN get it assessed and ordered.

Jeremy - posted on 03/20/2014

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Yes I have been in full contact. And have payed half her braces. Never missed a child support payment. My ex does everything to keep her from coming to my home. Grounding her making her babysit on weekends so she can't do anything. I'm fed up. We never went to court this is her forcing and bullying me to pay the maximum. She is all about money. Not the welfare of our child.

Jodi - posted on 03/19/2014

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Do you have contact with your daughter? have you had regular visitation, etc?

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