Patty - posted on 06/24/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
Hi - I have been dating someone for over a year and he's a great guy. He knew that I had grown children and 3 grand kids.The only thing he didn't realize is that I love to spend time with my grand kids.
So what has happened is that I have had time out from spending with my grand kids as he says I spend to much time with them. So it started with around 3 times a week down to 1 day a week and some week-ends if I'm lucky. I have a very close relationship with them so its very hard not seeing them.
I've talked to my boyfriend about it and told him he needs to understand that he can't have ALL of my time. I feel like he's taking me away from the thing that brings me so much joy - my grand kids.
Any advise on how to deal with this? I've told him that he and I can work around this so that there is plenty of time with HIM and w/the grand kids but every time I schedule something with the grand kids I get a sour face (boyfriend) - I told him he doesn't have to be around them that I can spend the time I want to with them and he can come with me whenever he 'wants' to.
By the way, I am a pretty young grandma - I'm 44 years old. :)
If it was the old me - I would have dumped him a long time ago but as you age - you become more patient and are more willing to work out deals with your spouse so it's a win/win situation.