Aina - posted on 02/12/2013
i was 5 weeks prenant and im bleeding and ive been for a scan and they can't find a heart beat is it to early or am i haveing a miscarriage and it happens 2 times with me last time my pregnancy was of 10 weeks but no heart beat and no baby progressed. it was a crushed piece of blood which was of dark colored near to blackish.
Hi Michelle, firstly Im so sorry youve had a miscarriage. I had one a few years ago - its called a 'silent miscarriage' here. I too bled a bit - I thought I was about 10 weeks pregnant but the baby had died at about 6 weeks. I was told i could either wait for the miscarriage to happen naturally or go into hospital and have some tablets which would make the miscarriage happen properly or I could have a D & C under anaesthetic. I opted to wait for it to happen naturally but nothing did after 5 weeks so i went in and had the tablets, stayed overnight and went home the next day. It was ok, a bit crampy like period pains but nothing too bad, Id already been upset over losing the baby so it wasnt upsetting to be there having this done. I was 40 at the time and I decided that I was obviously too old to be having another baby, I was sad about that though.
3 months later, despite contraception I was pregnant again! I was terrified I was going to lose this one as well...but as you can see in my profile picture - theres my little man, 22 months old now and the light of my life!
Hope it goes ok for you ((((hugs)))
Hope - posted on 06/04/2009
Michelle I am so sorry for you. I have had two miscarriages in the last year and a half. the first one was so heart braking because I got to hear and see the heart beat on an ultra sound. I went to a different doctor for the second Pregnancy and they found out I don't produce enough hormones to maintain a pregnancy so I was getting shots twice a week but at 10 weeks I lost that one too. You will be a mommy again. Don't let anything or anyone make you feel bad. You did nothing wrong and you loved that baby at six weeks just as a mother loves her baby at full term. I truly believe that I have two children in Heaven waiting for me.
M.J. - posted on 06/03/2009
Michelle, I am so sorry for your loss. I miscarried my first pregancy at 8 weeks. It was awful. My husband and I decided it was a boy and named him Ezekiel. It helped us say goodbye. There was no reason why I miscarried. I thought it just wasn't time for us to have a baby yet, but he helped prepare my body for the next one. We now have a beautiful 6 week old daughter, Alexandra. Things will work out for you eventually, but take time to mourn this baby.
Jen - posted on 06/03/2009
I am so sorry for your loss. I too had a miscarriage. I was 9 weeks along. There was no answer as to why this happened. All they could tell me is that it happens for a reason. And maybe the baby wasn't developing properly. It is a very hard thing to go through. But keep your hopes high. I was pregnant 3 months later and he is now 3. I wish you the best and hang in there.
Donna - posted on 06/03/2009
I am so sorry Michelle. I went through the same thing two years ago. I lost a baby that had a heartbeat. It took so long to figure out that I was losing the baby. They are not sure why I lost the baby since there was a heartbeat. But the good news is I have a 10 month old. He is awesome and healthy. He was a big boy and still is. He was 10 pound 12.5 oz. I know that this is a horrible thing to go through. Give your time to heal and grieve. Once your body is ready you can try again. There is not a higher chance to have a second miscarriage. I bled with both babies. Carter came out just fine. Good luck. Again I am so sorry for your lose.
Jess - posted on 05/31/2009
Im 30 weeks pregnant now and when i first found out i was pregnant i had on off bleeding up until about 12 weeks but it was never as much as period. I had an internal ultrasound at 5 weeks and they couldnt find a hearbeat either and usually it can't be detected till atleast 6 weeks. On the ultrasound it is can be hard to see, but def by 8 weeks you should be able to see the heartbeat. If you are having a misscarriage or ectopic pregnancy i think you would be in alot of pain. I got admitted to the hospital at 5 weeks for abdominal pain because they thought it may have been ectopic and had to stay there till they cleared me so try not to worry just wait and see how things go. I know it must be hard but hopefully everything will turn out for the best. Good luck.
Tara - posted on 05/31/2009
Six weeks is usually too early to find a heartbeat....if I remember correctly you can begin to hear it at around 10 weeks. If they did an ultrasound and the baby is there then I would try not to worry and just rest alot.
Six weeks is pretty much too early to find the heart beat, most doctors say they are only able to hear it at between 10 - 14 weeks, and sometimes it can take longer - with both my babies (14 months and 24 weeks pregnant right now) it took until 16 weeks to hear the heartbeat. As long as they are able to see the fetal sac you should be alright. I would try not to stress (although it is really hard not to) - also remember that some women can have light to moderate periods/bleeding for quite a while into the pregnancy - my sister had regular (though light) periods up until she was almost 7 months along.
Leaha - posted on 05/31/2009
Definitely ask for the HCG test! If you are miscarrying you need to know asap, so as to not harm yourself if you plan to have more children. But the HCG test will let you know how far along you are exactly and it may only be that you are so early that the heart beat is still undetectable. Sounds a little silly but try not to worry too much, you'll just stress yourself out. You are in my prayers, I can imagine how you are feeling...
Jeanne - posted on 05/31/2009
If you are bleeding like a normal pregnancy I would return to the hospital and ask them for an ultrasound. It could be nothing - some women don't even know when they are six weeks pregnant and get what they think is a period and carry through with a regular pregnancy. I don't believe that you can see the fetal heartbeat at six weeks but I may be wrong. The other possibilites that I am aware of are these: You are miscarrying, you have a tubal pregnancy or you have a multiple pregnancy and are miscarrying one of the fetuses. Depending on how long you have been bleeding and how much I would return to the hospital and ask them to do the ulstrasound and the HCG test that was mentionned by Leaha.....it's better to be safe than sorry. Good luck.
Leaha - posted on 05/31/2009
What kind of a scan? At only 6 weeks, it's possible the heat beat is not yet detectable. If you're just spotting, may be no big deal, if it's enough that you have to use a pad, or are in pain, Go to the ER. You may possibly be having a miscarriage or even an ectopic pregnancy. Have you had HCG testing done yet to find out your hormone levels? That is a sure way for the docs to determine what's going on. I personally just had an ectopic pregnancy and was only about 3 weeks pregnant, but had severe pain and cramping with bleeding. I went to the ER and they did and ultra sound and that's when they found it was a tubal pregnancy. If you haven't had an ultrasound our HCG testing done yet, MAKE your doctor do these tests. I don't want to scare you, but ectopic pregnancies as well as miscarriages can be life threatening. Just keep yourself healthy, you CAN make your docs do these kinds of tests to make sure everything is ok, even this early on. God bless, and good luck...
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