Rachel - posted on 11/11/2013 ( 14 moms have responded )
I just had the most horrific weekend ever. I cannot even began to say how upset I'm with everything.
Colby, my son from my first marriage was unable to stay with his father because his father's health problem was quickly declining. We all decided that it was best for Colby to move back to USA to live with my family and me. Ever since he moved from France where he was living with his father, it seems like as if nothing has been going good.
Ever since he moved back here, thing have got worse. He doesn't get along with his step brother or half brother or sister at all! He even took his step brother's job from my father which forced my step son to find other job and doesn't get paid as well. He also doesn't seems to really have any friends here except for few exchange students and most time he speak to them in other language.
We used to let him to go the beach (two hours drive from here) but when we start to try limit it due to his poor behave, he began to sneak out repeatedly and often didn't come home for a day or two (he almost always go out during the weekend)
We have tried to set alarm, screw window screen to frame, sleep in living room (his bedroom is on second floor), and numerous other things. Yet he still got out without anybody knowing until the morning. We have tried to take his car key away which doesn't help at all.
We took his phone away then found out he had a prepaid phone. We took away some of his beach stuff which just make thing worse.
We have been considering try stop him from working for his grandfather, but we're afraid becuase he have been more than able to make money by either making bets (which had lead to few serious fight) or buying broken stuff and selling it on craigslist. So we're worried if we stop him from working, he'd just find worse way to make money.
In school, he do well in class and rarely get anything less than a "A" on test or quix but his grade suffer because he never do any home work! He says it is pointless so he wouldn't do it! We have tried everything, but he just refuse to do it!
On Friday, Colby disappear right after work. Then I got a call from Colby's father, he was furious at me. I learned that Colby actually do have a facebook account under his French modified name. I found it and saw a lot of pictures of him at the beach with this older girl that he have been hanging out with since July. Also I learned that Colby somehow got a motorcycle not long after we took his car key. Also he seems to have another older female friend that he hang out with when in the city we are in as well.
I end up called Colby to ask what is this about and told him to get home right now. He just told me he'd be home on MOnday evening and hung up! He keep ignoring my phone call or just make it quite short and brief!
It is getting pretty late and I know Colby will be home soon.
I'm just beyond furious right now. I don't even know what to do any more! I just feel like it is impossible to get anything through to him and I'm beyond upset! I've never felt so lost and don't even know what to do any more!