BI-POLAR AND RAISING CHILDREN AND SUPORT FROM FAMILIES

ZYKIA - posted on 05/17/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I AM A 31 YR OLD MOTHER OF FOUR AND THE NUMBER OF TIMES I MENTIONED TO CERTAIN MEMBERS OF MY FAMILY THAT I SERIOUSLY FEEL LIKE I MIGHT BE SUFFERING FROM BI-POLAR THEY THINK THAT I JUST WANT TO OR BEING A FOLLOWER EVEN THOUGH THEY HAVE SEEN SIGNS WHICH THEY KNOW ARE NOT NORMAL. SOMETIMES ITS HARD NOT HAVING THEIR SUPPORT AND IS REALLY EMBARRASING WHEN THEY OR OTHERS FIND OUT THINGS YOU HAVE BEEN TRYING TO KEEP SECRET OUT OF SHAME AND NOT BEING IN THE RIGHT STATE OF MIND TO BE ABLE TO CONTROL YOUR ENVIRONMENT. ESPECIALLY, SITTING BACK AFTER KNOWING YOU JUST DID A BUNCH OF THINGS COMPLETELY WRONG BUT FELT UNABLE TO STOP. MANY WOULD RATHER JUDGE THAN TO SEE THAT THERE IS SOMETHING VERY UNBALANCED GOING ON. I HAVE A 13 YR OLD ADHD AND POSSIBLY SCHIZOPHRENIC 13 YR OLD WHO CARES NOTHING ABOUT HIMSELF AND PULLS HAIR OUT AND FINDS IT FUNNY, 7 YR AUTISTIC BOY WHO IS VERY INTELLIGENT JUST HAS BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS AND VERY IMPULSIVE, A 4 YR BOY WHO SO FAR HAS ONLY BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH ADHD AND HAS SEVERE MOOD SWINGS LIKE ME AND EXTREMELY LOW PATIENCE SOMETIMES AND THEN A 3 YR OLD BOY WHO JUST HAS A TEMPER AND STUBBORN LIKE A BULL LIKE HIS SIGN TAURUS, LOL. ALL BOYS, AND THEN WAS LIVING WITH BUT NO LONGER AM WITH THEIR FATHER WHO HAD BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH SCHIZOPHRENIA AND I BELIEVE SOCIOPATH WAS LEFT OUT. THEN HE WAS ALWAYS DRINKING AND WOULD DO DRUGS THAT MADE HIM ACT WORST. PARTICULARLY ANGEL DUST. CAN YOU IMAGINE LIVING IN A HOUSE LIKE THAT. I KNOW SOMEONE ALWAYS HAS A STORY WORST, BUT IM HAPPY I CAME HERE BECAUSE I NEED THE COURAGE AGAIN TO REPEAT MY STORY TO MY DOCTOR SINCE IM NOT ALWAYS TAKEN SERIOUSLY WHEN I SAY THERE IS SOMETHING GOING ON BEYOND MY CONTROL. IM SCARED OF KEEPING A JOURNAL THINKING SOMEONE MIGHT FIND IT AND IF I WRITE ON COMPUTER I DONT WANNA END UP LOSING IT. MAYBE I CAN WRITE IT AND THEN STORE IT ON A FLASH DRIVE.

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Yvette - posted on 05/18/2015

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This is so sad, breaks my heart. I do not have Bi Polar but do suffer depression. It is very difficult when others judge you. I do think you most definitely need to see a Psychiatrist to get properly diagnosed. Not even your family Dr can diagnose you properly. Good luck with it. I wish you well.

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Jodi - posted on 05/19/2015

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Laecialynn, I understand we have both maybe interpreted it in different ways. Unfortunately, Susan has decided to call me out on the way in which I interpreted the post (and I wasn't even addressing Susan, so I am not sure what her issue was). When someone decides to report someone and then pick at them for their interpretation and response to the post and then continue to tell you to blow it out your ass.....they are not meaning well at all.

Ieacialynn - posted on 05/19/2015

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Ladies.....I think you may have both misinterpreted some statements by Zykia. I may even be wrong in my interpretations...but women we should support one another either way. Words typed can be misconstrued easily.👭 Zykia is trying to relay a lot to us on here out of desperation. Not all of what is said is going to come out Crystal clear😌I think both of you meant well and hope we don't loose either one of you in the (circleofmoms). Zykia....Hon you seem to have a lot on your life plate. You also seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and are a loving mom who has been through a lot. Realizing something is not right with yourself is overwelming in itself. Yet you are not denying it or hiding it. You want help or you would not have posted; be proud of that. Its possible your family is also not giving you the support you want because they don't know how. You can take the next step now and seek trained help for whatever it may be. Best of luck and GOD Blesses&Loves

Jodi - posted on 05/18/2015

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For goodness sake!! I was NOT judging her. I was pointing out to her that until she gets a diagnosis, she isn't GOING to get support for her "bipolar"!! Who is the one abusing people? It certainly isn't me....the only abuse on here is from you, Susan.

Susan - posted on 05/18/2015

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Good god I thought this might be a good sight but with bullies like that...I am soo out of here...good luck to you Zykia. And Jody blow it up your ass, you need to abuse people
go to another site.

Jodi - posted on 05/18/2015

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"Unless you are in Zykia's shoes you dont know what your talking about."

Actually, I do. She doesn't have bi-polar until she has a diagnosis from a professional. Until then, I am not sure why she feels everyone should believe her on that.

" I reported you because you are exactly the opposite of support."

Just because I suggested that she needs to see a professional and get an actual diagnosis? Please......

" Be truthful but end the condescending behavior until you are actually in her position."

Again, merely your opinion. There is nothing condescending about suggesting someone seek professional diagnosis and help.

"She did not say she had bipolar...she felt like it...big difference"

That's your interpretation. She is saying she seriously feels like she might be suffering from it and her family are not supportive of the fact.....that's my interpretation of what she is saying. I am saying that you can't expect people to be supportive of your bipolar if you haven't been professionally diagnosed. That's just the truth. I'm not asking you to like it.

Report away. I said nothing inappropriate. *blows kisses*

Susan - posted on 05/18/2015

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Jodi,
This should be a place of support. Unless you are in Zykia's shoes you dont know what your talking about. I reported you because you are exactly the opposite of support.
She is in this forum as a last resort. This is probably the only place she has to go to get positive support. Dont ruin it for her. Be truthful but end the condescending behavior until you are actually in her position. She did not say she had bipolar...she felt like it...big difference...give her a break...and give support. That is what she is looking for.
Otherwise dont respond.

Jodi - posted on 05/18/2015

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Actually, your family is not being supportive of your self-diagnosis, because it is exactly that - a self-diagnosis. No-one is going to take you seriously unless you go to see a professional and get yourself diagnosed. It isn't a secret unless it is factual, and until you have an official diagnosis, then it isn't factual. Sure, you FEEL like you are suffering bi-polar, but that doesn't mean you actually are. With everything else going on in your life, it is possible that it is stress related mental illness (not bi-polar).

Go and talk to your doctor. Your doctor will be able to listen without judgement and refer you to a psychiatrist for diagnosis, or for treatment. But doing nothing is not going to help. Expecting everyone to provide you support for your "bi-polar" is also a stretch until you get that help with your doctor, because right now, you have nothing for them to believe.

Susan - posted on 05/17/2015

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Zykia,
I think nobody has responded because nobody knows what to say. It sounds terrible.
It sounds overwhelming, but what is worse is posting..and not one response.
Bipolar..or being out of control sucks. Can you get to a doctor? My heart is with you.
Dont worry about what your family thinks, what you need to do is get the help and medication, ...to hopefully get balanced...to help you manage the kids. Google SAMSA
then put your zip code in... it will show you where you can get free mental health and
medication. Do this asap...I pray this helps. Susan

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