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So, my son's bio dad has been out of the picture since he was 1 1/2, due to going to prison for 2 years. During this time, i started dating my husband. We got married in 2014, the same year my son's bio dad was released from prison. Part of his parole was that he couldn't contact me, but legally he still could've gone thru the courts for visitation. Anywho, in April 2016 my husband legally adopted our son, who is now 7. Ironically, in June 2016 my ex was let off parole, and sent me a message about possibly becoming a part of my son's life. My son knows he was adopted and about his birth dad, but changes his mind on what he wants when I bring up giving his birth dad updates on how he is doing etc. Obviously my husband is against it. He feels he had the chance to fight and didnt, which i totally understand. I am just wondering since my son is so back n forth on what he wants, if any other mothers out there have delt with this , and how they handled it. I am tore on what to do. I want to obviously honor my husband's wishes, but more importantly give my son a chance to do what he wants, wether it be talk to his bio dad or see him etc. Any advice helps! Thanks!