Carol - posted on 01/13/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )
I applied to child support last feb 2015.. since my child has been born, the father has never wanted anything to do with their life. They did give money for them here and there during the earlier years.. A couple of years ago they told me that they didn't have any money and I didn't ask him for any for the entire year.. after that I said I needed him to help again. He started sending money every few months and then finally last year I received nothing.. So I filed. I just noticed today that he had on his case (Default order for paternity and child support. The gave a certificate for default judgement and child support worksheet.)
I don't think he even did a swab. My case worker told me that they wanted a swab from me and I said, I already did a swab... Also, I don't live in DC. He does. So they must have been looking to swab him and thought it was me.. Anyway,,,, he had a continuance on his case for the last 3 months. (trying to stall). I gathered he was calling them with excuses... and Last week... he defaulted.. He didn't show up for court.. Pathetic.
That is the only word.. I can think of PATHETIC... I didn't do this just for the money. I can take care of my child... I had too.. I didn't get pregnant by myself.. I dealt with my "mistake" (my child isn't a mistake)....as an adult.. and he can run away???? NO!!!!... but having a chase a 47 year old man around to make him be responsible???... I can't believe I am living my nightmare.. Oh.. well.. there is a judgement now.. He will have a bill for the next 12 years..Good for him.. If he doesn't pay.. it will just grow. And you know.. I feel better but ruining someones life doesn't make me happy... It shouldn't have come to this..
In september, he sent me a Happy Birthday text on my birthday... what was that for? On christmas I sent him a text saying merry christmas... and he never responded... (don't ask me why I did this... I am still emotional about this.. I got a little weak...) I wont do it again.. surely. What is wrong with people.