Medi - posted on 01/12/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )
I just need little advice. I'm 23 and I have two children from a previous relationship. One is 2 and the other just turned one. The issue I'm not facing is with their father. The father and I were together for 5 years which ended due to him wanting to be with someone else. Regardless of what happened between us I of course did not allow that to affect his relationship with the kids. He however decided not to make any efforts to contact the kids for 4 entire months. During this time there was absolutely no communication with him, not even to check on them. After the girl broke up with him he magically remembered he had kids and decided that he wanted to be in their lives again. I allowed this to happen because I know how important it is for my kids to have a dad. I also know that everyone makes mistakes. Shortly after he came back into their lives he started dating someone else again. My ex and I live in different states now. He promised he would come visit the kids for my sons first birthday. When it came closer to my sons birthday he began making excuses about not being able to come due to financial issues he was facing. I find out shortly after that he did have the money for the ticket but decided to go visit his girlfriend in Fl instead. I was furious because he promised he would visit the kids and also because he has no financial responsibility to the kids. Yet he can go visit his girlfriend. Now I've been dating someone else for a while and he refuses to allow me to introduce my kids to my boyfriend. Another issue is that he got upset because he's constantly asking me for money and the other day I told him that I refused to help him out financially any longer. Since then he refuses to answer my phone calls. I text him letting him know its about the kids and he only responds to the texts calling me horrible names. I called him to tell him that my daughter had a bad asthma attack and he don't me not to ever call him and he hung up.