Biological father is deceased-how to deal with all the issues??

Lindsey - posted on 01/08/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )

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Hey there fellow mommies! Here it goes... My daughter is 2. Her biological father died when she was about a year and a half. She has no memory of him whatsoever. He had another daughter, who is now 11, who contacts me on a regular basis to see my daughter. I've been ignoring these calls, along with FB friend requests. The thing is, my fiance has been Daddy since her bio passed away and we now have a new baby, as well as his 8year old son from a previous marriage. Our two boys will always call him Daddy, as will she, but I don't want her to feel as though she's any different. I plan to tell her when the time is right and hope that she sees him no differently. My question is do I allow contact with the half-sister?? Her mother and grandmother are drug addicts and not the type of people I want in my daughter's life, so that's an easy decision. However, do I punish the 11 year old (and possibly my daughter) by not allowing a relationship? And.. how would I even allow the relationship without getting too involved with this other child and the "adults" in her life? I don't want my daughter to resent me when she's older for disallowing her to know her other sibling, but I'm not sure if it's in her best interest either. Has anybody else been put in this position??? Please help!

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