Biological father problems AKA ( sperm donars) lol

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/17/2014

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Then he's a rapist. Still not a sperm donor. Sperm donors are anonymous. They donate their semen to be banked for those who either cannot conceive, or those who wish to conceive without the sexual part.

If he raped you, you should have turned it in at the time, had him prosecuted, and jailed.

If you were in a relationship with the guy, and he assumed consent, it's still considered rape. However, that is now all semantics. You're calling him the 'baby daddy'. You're validating that he does have something to do with the child.

As stated before, if you're having problems with the biological father of your child, get an attorney, get paternity established, and take him to court.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/17/2014

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We hear "sperm donor" a lot around here and it can be a touchy subject especially for those with difficulty conceiving or those that chose an actual sperm donor. No harm done hun.

I am so sorry that you even have to deal with your rapist because a child is involved. That must be so difficult I just cannot even imagine. Can you explain what is going on? What steps you have taken? Have you charged him with rape or filed for sole custody? Where are you at with all of this? I know a lot of women on this page are surely going to step up and talk to you in depth about how to deal with custody issues. There is only so much anyone can offer for advice cause this is an international site.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/17/2014

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No one judged you, Josey. We explained why you should use proper terminology.

And, again, if you're having problems with the guy, take him to court. Don't make it easy on him.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/17/2014

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Implying sperm donor sounds like you were accepting of the conditions. I agree with everything Shawnn said. Get a lawyer and deal with this asshole. IMO I would be going for sole custody and getting child support to the limit of the law.

Liz - posted on 04/17/2014

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Calling a human being a sperm donor because you chose to have unprotected sex with them and got pregnant is neither funny nor nice.

If you wish to get help and advice, you need to be more specific about the nature of your problems but, as Shawnn already said, your best route is likely to be a legal one. If you avoid it now, you'll head into other problems as your child gets older.

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Liz - posted on 04/17/2014

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Nobody meant to bash you, Josey. Unfortunately, when you don't give the community here enough information to go on, the answers can't be as helpful as they would be if the whole picture (or enough of it) was given in the original post. It isn't just you that has experienced this problem.

I think we would all agree here that you need help and deserve support...and that is what this community is for.

Take a deep breath and tell us a bit more about the situation, as Little Miss and Shawnn have asked.

Once we know a little bit more, I'm sure there will be ladies whose experiences are close to yours who will be able to give you more relevant advice.

That said, you really _do_ need to get this situation addressed formally and legally.

Hugs to you.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/17/2014

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We are here for you. Just try to be more specific about the issues at hand. We are not mind readers and do not know your history. We only know what you tell us. Trust me, we are a very supportive group of women and do the best that we can to give advice when needed.

Gena - posted on 04/17/2014

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I totally agree with the other ladies.That calling somebody you had sex with a sperm donor is not funny and not nice.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/17/2014

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It is not a laughing matter. You chose to have sexual intercourse with someone. That means he is NOT a sperm donor.

If you're having difficulty now getting along with the person that you fornicated with and created a human being as a result, I suggest that you retain an attorney and get custody/visitation/support set through the courts.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/17/2014

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You really need to be more specific on this site. We don't have any knowledge to your issues. Also, if you chose to have sex with this guy, he is not a sperm donor.

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