Lauren - posted on 03/02/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
My husband and I have been living together for 4 years and finally got married last year. Since announcing our engagement, biomom has been in a race to catch-up. So much so, she got engaged a month before our wedding date, got married just 4 months after we married (a 5 month engagement) and now, we found out from my Step-son, that biomom is pregnant. So within 8 months my step-son has experienced a lot of rapid change! I am concerned about how all these changes are affecting my step-son and feel like my husband and I need to provide some stability to counteract the very quick huge life changing events that are happening with biomom. One problem with the "stability plan," is my husband and I have been discussing with our Step-son for about 6 months (so prior to biomom's marriage or pregnancy announcements) how we'd like to try to get pregnant. My step-son is 9 and so he has been an only child for 9 years. I don't want to overwhelm him with 2 new babies in one year's time, but I also don't know how I feel about postponing our well thought-out plans because of biomom. I'm obviously feeling very conflicted. Please help.