Bipolar

Leslie - posted on 09/18/2016 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I have 3 kids and my middle child is bipolar and he's off his meds I cant make him take it because he's 18 his outburst is distroying me I dont know what to do.

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Adnick361992 - posted on 09/20/2016

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That's hard I have been in your shoes . You can call MHMR in your area and they have a hot line. And yes bipolar falls under the mental Heath . That you can tell them they will be picked up if you feel your in and danger. I been there it very hard but think of your other kids and you have to stay strong for them . Be strong you can do this 😊

Leslie - posted on 09/19/2016

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My son suffers from alot of bad memories he was sexually molested by his uncle he has been hospitalized from 13-16 he's now 18 but he was locked up in a childerns phyciatric hospital for the wrong reasons he was suffering from chronic pain and put on all these diffrent kinds of medicine I finally took him to a diffrent hospital they found that his lower back was fractured and it looked like an old fracture from when he was little so they said that as he was growing and his spinal cord stretched it was excurciating and then he had a cyst in his brain as big as a water baloon so he had surgeries for both of those but the other hospital put him through alot of shit that could have been solved as a child so we had to drop him out of school in 8th grade he has no friends and he has PTSD, anxiety disorder real bad and he's suicidal and hes still living with chronic pain and I know all that he has been through foesnt give him a right to trest me bad and others. I want to get him to councling and the help he needs but im the only one that is bringing the income there dad abandoned us in 2003 and ive always had to wrk 2 jobs or a full time with overtime availability. So I have no time to take him or be home to support my other kids. But I know he needs help. And im just over whelmed I've been diagnosed recently with some illness and also Im needing surgery if I dont get it done soon ill end up in a wheel chair so I don't know what to do anymore doctors say that with all the extra work that I have done over the years my body has become old at a young age.

Ev - posted on 09/18/2016

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IF he is just listed on the lease then he does not have to worry about the contract part of the rental agreement. IF he is on there to pay rent that is different. If he is just living here you have the right to make him leave. He is abusing your generous nature and you are also allowing it. I do not want to be mean but that is how it looks to me.

Jodi - posted on 09/18/2016

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Is he just listed on the lease? Or is he an actual party to the contract?

Ev - posted on 09/18/2016

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He has the right to live there yes, but he is putting you guys through hell right now because he is not on his meds and so forth. You can not keep putting up with it. If you do that is on you.

Ev - posted on 09/18/2016

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Who pays the bill? A lot of places now expect all adults over 18 to be on the lease living there just to be listed as residents but that does not mean he would be responsible for paying rent.

Jodi - posted on 09/18/2016

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Stop letting him come back! Just tell him he has had plenty of chances and you are done.

Ev - posted on 09/18/2016

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And then you are allowing this to continue. You are letting him walk all over you. You are going to need to use some tough love!!!

Leslie - posted on 09/18/2016

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Ya I've kicked him out before then he returns with being sorry and crying and its a cycle and Ive gotten to.the point that I ignore him and then he makes me feel like the bad mom because I dont pay attention he wants everybody to live by his rules because his way is the right way.

Ev - posted on 09/18/2016

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He is an adult now and you can not make him take his meds. What you can do is set up a contract with what is expected of him and rules. He can either sign it or have a certain amount of time to find another place to live. I know you worry about him but it is his choice.

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