BIRTHDAY PARTIES

Orangekist - posted on 09/01/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone,

So I'm in a bit of a situation and I would love your input.

My son will soon be turning 3 years old and I am not sure I should have a "party" with family. For his 1st birthday we did a big party in our home and invited all close friends and family. Last year we didn't really want to do another party, but my mother in law convinced us to have one (we ended up spending a lot of money on food and we're of the mentality that there's never enough food). The problem is that my husband's family is quite large (my family does not live here so we do not invite them) and we NEVER see them. We literally only see them at birthdays and Christmas, we are not close and last year we were pressured to have everyone over even though we were not keen on it. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I'm finding it hard to spend all this money and put in all this work when a) my son is only 3 b) we are not a close family. Do you think it would be rude just to have a little dinner with my son and his grandparents this year instead of having aunts and uncles and cousins over?

Thank in advance for your input.

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Orangekist - posted on 09/01/2016

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This is been common with my huband's family in the past (going to a restaurant). I may consider doing this.

Sarah - posted on 09/01/2016

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I agree, you don't need to have a huge party every year. a simple dinner with the grandparents is enough. He can still have a cake and sing and all that goes with the party. Do what is right for you and your family. If as LMCBW points out, people complain; they can host the party.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/01/2016

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Then go for it! You can certainly invite the one cousin and parents over IF you want. It is ok to just have a quiet birthday, I promise. If people get up in arms about it, another relative can throw a party for your child. OR, and easy way, invite everyone out for a big family dinner in a restaurant to celebrate. Everyone can pay their own way, and if they truly are wanting to celebrate they can. Just throwing out ideas.

Orangekist - posted on 09/01/2016

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He has 1 cousin around his age but the other 4 are all quite a bit older than him and tend to really be in his face a lot of the time (which is nice that they want to be around him) but at only 3 he tends to get very overstimulated by all that. My husband is totally on board with the quite grandparent gathering so that's not an issue.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/01/2016

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To add, if he has kid cousins around the same age, that would be nice to invite them to have some kids there for your son, but it is not mandatory. Enjoy your sons birthday, if you don't want a big party, then don't have one. If you do end up having a big party, have everyone sign up to bring a dish.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/01/2016

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I personally think that is perfectly acceptable. Have you talked with your husband about this? What is his input?
If you are looking for an excuse to throw a party and have the family get together, birthdays are a wonderful way to do that. I have had plenty of just immediate family birthdays. Don't be pressured into throwing a party that you don't want to have. An intimate family birthday can be so lovely! At 3 years old, I am sure he would love all the attention, but at 4 years old, he will actually understand it better and remember it. At this point, throwing a massive party is really for the adults.

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