Birthday Party Dilemma

Lindsey - posted on 03/01/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




Ill start be saying I have the best intentions for everyone in this situation. There are two children's birthday parties on the same day. Start with party 1.
This is a first birthday for a long time friends baby. It's at a restaurant. There will be a few other children. My children's grandparents will be there. ( my parents). My older daughter (3) doesn't want to go because the older daughter of the mom throwing the party pushed her and yelled at her last time we got together. ( I'm sure once we were there she'd be fine just hanging out with us and her grandparents)
Party 2. This is my older daughters first all kid bday invitation from a preschool friend. It's at a local gymnastics school. I know she would have a blast!
My problem is weather or not to have my older daughter go to her friends birthday. I know she'd have way more fun. But..... Then there's the other that I feel obligated to go to. I want to go to celebrate her baby turning one. Either way I would take my baby to the first birthday party with me. My husband would take our older one to her friends.
The common sense thing is to talk to my friend. Not that easy. We missed her daugters birthday one year because my daughter needed emergency surgery the day after the party. We had to cancel the day before the party. She didn't talk to me for a year! Needless to say, I haven't been as close to her since. I know my older daughter will have some fun no matter what we do and won't even realize she's going to one or the other. What would you do?


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Dove - posted on 03/02/2016




Your friend sounds extremely petty and immature and I wouldn't have even been friend's w/ her any longer if she held my child's MEDICAL needs against us. It's not the baby's fault, of course, but since I would have zero relationship w/ the woman... I would have zero contact w/ the children... they wouldn't even know me to miss me.

Michelle - posted on 03/02/2016




I was leaning towards letting your daughter go to her friend's party but the last paragraph confirmed it. Is she that petty that she holds a grudge because your daughter had to have surgery? That's really childish. I personally wouldn't have to think twice about what party to go to as I wouldn't have struck up a friendship with her again.

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