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Nicola - posted on 04/09/2011
ONe year one gets a big party the next year the other one gets the bigger party when its not there year for the bigger party they just get a couple of friends over and/or family for a nice family meal with a cake. you probably don't need to worry to much until your youngest is 3 or so but if you start you can tell Kylee you are starting a new family tradition and if she's always had big parties in the past it won't be so disapointing for her if she's getting to start a tradition.
Sherri - posted on 11/23/2010
Two separate birthdays a week apart from each other. I would not make them share them it isn't fair to either one of them. They didn't ask to be born so close to their sibling. Make sure they each get a day all to themselves.
Amanda - posted on 11/23/2010
Yeap two cakes, I am a identical twin, who shared a birthday for my whole life (clearly lol), and my mother always made sure we had our own cakes, and no shared presents. I wouldnt waste the money on two different partys.
I would also do special meals on their actual birthday dates, with one personal gift for them on those days.
Angie - posted on 11/23/2010
Plan their birthdays entirely separate. Celebrate the earlier birthday on it's day. Celebrate the second on it's day. As long as you make it clear that there is a difference, it shouldn't be a problem. My birthday is on Christmas Eve. Imagine having a birthday so close to Christ's. It wasn't difficult for my parents to make me feel that my day was special. My birthday was celebrate one day and Christ's the next.
my daughter and niece's birthdays are 9 days apart, they are the same age. on their first birthdays (which were in june). my niece's bday was first, so we had a cake for her and she got most of her presents, and my daughter got to open a present as well. then on the weekend between their birthdays, we had a joint bday party where they got cupcakes, presents etc. then on my daughters bday the next week, we did the same as on my niece's, cake for my daughter, and presents for both. it wasnt that bad, because they were only 1, the hardest part was going to both sets of granparents on my daughters bday so no one felt left out. my niece lives with my husbands parents, so thats where we did the majority of celebrating. we went to my parents house for supper on my daughters bday... it was a very hectic time, but we managed.
for you, i would make sure to have enough presents for each of them, dont go all out for one or the other will feel left out. and make sure that you dont do joint parties every year, even though its easier than doing two parties the same week, you dont want them to feel jipped... hope this helped?
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