birthdays and no friends

Kimberly - posted on 01/20/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 13 and special needs. she talks about her birthday the day after we celebrated it until a year later, everyday. every year we plan and every year no one shows not neighbors and barely family. what do I do. she has no friends. her brother is popular with his group of friends but they just annoy her. how do I make this better we are going on 14 and the last 10 birthdays been unsuccessful. she always thinks this will be the year. I really don't want to disappoint her and shes been depressed too.

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Gena - posted on 01/20/2015

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That breaks my heart!!!!!!! I know how she feels because that happened to me once! I just moved to Switzerland from South Africa and turned 11. I invited all the Girls for my new class and my father went out of his way to make alot of home made Lasagne...exactly 1 Girl came..another Girl that wasnt swiss. It hurt my Feelings and i felt sorry for my parents for going out of their way and then those Girls didnt Show up. Thankfully that only happened once to me. I would also speek to the parents of the friends..you can tell them that it is very sad and very upsetting. If they dont want to come or act all wierd then go do something very Special with your daughter!! I hope that her friends come for her birthday...and if not that you have a great day with her!! You can also ask the parents how they would feel if that would happen to their child.

Jodi - posted on 01/20/2015

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Have you actually spoken to the parents of these friends? Surely if you explained the situation you could organise something that they could be supportive of.....

Kimberly - posted on 01/20/2015

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We tried to even just create a play date with just one friend. I'm not sure what were gonna do.

Kimberly - posted on 01/20/2015

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We usually only invite three girls and everyone promises to show and no one shows. Out of ideas. We have done pizza party, gymnastic party, movies, nails and sleep overs and its always just her. We get lots of excuses and even try and change the date. Its very sad.

Jodi - posted on 01/20/2015

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Does she have any particular special friends at school? Why not speak to the parents of that friend and instead of organising a huge party, just organise a special girl's day and outing - take both of them to a nail salon, have a pizza party, a movie and a sleepover or something like that? Birthday parties don't have to be enormous affairs with lots of people.

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