Anna - posted on 01/05/2016 ( no moms have responded yet )
I feel awful writing this, but I am growing more and more bitter at my husband. I am a teacher and my job pays the bills and health insurabce. He stays at home with our 4 yr old twins. When I get home the house is a mess, laundry is washed but sitting in piles for days waiting to be put away. Toys everywhere- AND they go to preschool 4 days a week for 6 hours a day. He does food shopping, cooking, car maintenance, and waiters on weekend evenings. I am burnt our, exhausted, 43, and the anger is welling up within me. I told him how I wish the house were clean and I didn't com ehome to a circus every day- I come home last night and want to spend time with my kids, he hands me a pile of bills and gets mad when I tell him I neeed to take off my coat and catch my breath. Our marriage is crumbling. He is foreign and his English is not so strong, he has a GED equivalent. I want to find a way to stay at home with them and maybe work from hime but I know it is not possible, Is there any way out? He says all I do is criticize him. We are in such a bad place and our twins are such rays of sunshine. Is he taking advantage of me or maybe did I sign up for this and should suck it up? His confidence is low so he gets to do what I always wanted to do- be a SAH parent. I feel so bitter- such a toxic emotion, I know. Time is passing, soon they'll be in school full time and this precious time will be gone.