Blended Familly (discipline)

Irene - posted on 01/16/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am a Full-Time step mom to three beautiful boys, and a mother of my two babies, Alex 10, Chirs 7, Angel 6, Jayden 4 and Vanellope 1month.....It has been a struggle from day one, mainly because of disciopline, most of the time the boys feel I am unfair and yell at them more then my kid...yesterday the oldest was playing the Xbox with my son and his 4 year old brother, they were both fighting regarding how to play the game so I said turn the game off and no one is playing, to what the oldest said to the 4year old....say thanks to Angel(my son), I said no Alex it is both yours and his and he replies yeah sure Irene lie straight to my face, I said you know what go to your room and calm down....he did after a couple of tries, his dad was upstairs and Alex is telling him that he was coming downstairs to hit me or my son....at this point I dont know how to discipline them, so that it doesnt seem unfair, keep in mind the two oldest talk back a lot more, I really do love them all and I love their dad and want us to be a family. His dad tries to help but I think he also believes I favor my son

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Irene - posted on 01/21/2013

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Thank you Shawnn, I did talk to my husband and we did agree on some rules and some structure, and we also talked to the boys and they AGREED that they dont get introuble for things they should wow, and we are setting up a point system, where after two weeks they might be able to get something fun if they keep all their points. Hopefully this works!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/16/2013

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You and your husband need to be united. He needs to help more, and you need to set a system where you are both consistent. I'm sure that you don't intentionally single out the step kids, but ANY slight deviation in your voice when speaking to them will be detected and pounced upon, even if you don't mean it to be.

And involve the kids at some point. Ask them to help you all set house rules, and consequences for not following them. If they have input, they'll actually appreciate it.

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