Cheroldine - posted on 09/21/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am new here and i would really like to get an opinion on this issue that i have.
My boyfriend and i have been dating since the beginning of 2013. He has 2 kids (9 yo girl and 6yo boy) from 2 previous relationships, i have a 5 year old girl from my previous relationship and we have 10 month old baby together. We live together with all our girls, we get to see the boy for 2 weekends and a week each month. He is a great guy, amazing actually. He loves me like i have never been loved before, he provides for me and takes very good care of our family.
The problem is with our kids. My daughter only sees her dad about once a year, usually over Chirstmas holidays. He lives in another country. So when she comes back from her dad she has new everything, clothes, toys etc. I ensure that i make it clear that its both their toys, etc. I cannot do that with clothes as my boyfriends daughter is older and cannot fit into my daughters clothes. My daughters father also pays for her school which is about $400 a month, and i dont ask him for anything else. My boyfriends daughters mom recently lost her job, and sees her at most 2 weekends a month, and hardly does anything for her child. My boyfriend does everything.
Now, my boyfriend feels like my daughter is getting more than his own child, as he is the one taking care of my daughter as well, but when it comes to things like clothes, my daughter always has more because of her dad always buys for her. But i feel that we have absolutely no control over what the other parents buy for our kids, and that we must practice equality in OUR house. For instance, if we buy one something, the other one must also get, but this makes my boyfriend feel like my daughter will always have more.
Am i being unrealistic?
Is there somebody in a similar situation?