Blending a family, tantrums with my 6 yr old

Heidi - posted on 01/08/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




Living with a blended family is proving to be a challenge, my boyfriend has no biological children, I bring 3 to the relationship. It can be difficult to "co-parent" when he has no parental experience. My 6 yr old has tantrums, not daily but a couple a week (@ my house and her dads). She is a strong willed girl. And her and my boyfriend butt heads a lot. My other 2 children get along great with the both of us. #stressed


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Michelle - posted on 01/08/2016




I agree with Shawnn, it's also not a blended family as he doesn't have children.
It's your job to enforce the rules as much as you can. He also needs to stop antagonizing a 6yo. He's an adult and knows exactly what buttons to push to get a reaction.
I met a man that didn't have any children and I had 2. We have since married and had 1 together. He knew how to help me parent the 2 so saying just because he doesn't have his own he doesn't know how to parent is rubbish and just an excuse for his behaviour.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/08/2016




I would not be allowing disciplinary actions to be handled by your boyfriend. He is not the child's father, nor stepfather. He's a man that you are currently seeing.

That being said, the child should have the respect for her elders to NOT butt heads with him, but lets face it, she's 6 and he's an adult. He needs to stop letting it get to that level.

Tantrums need to be handled with consistent consequences. If that is a time out, then that is what needs to be enforced, by both of you, if you are having him watch her while you are away, but if you are around and she's throwing a fit, you need to handle it, not him.

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