Heidi - posted on 10/08/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )
Please tell me if I'm over reacting. My daughter had the cutest most adorable love bird that became the family pet not long after she brought it home. If you've never had a bird it might be hard to believe but he truly had a cute, and funny personality and loved attention but mainly from my daughter and my husband, but the bird was hers. We all came to love this sweet little bird who even played ball with a little plastic bee bee. It was the cutest thing. Well, last weekend the bird was trying to get the attention of one of my step son's while he was playing an Xbox game, which he never puts down, and he was so annoyed by the bird that he hit or punched him so hard ultimately breaking his neck causing him to die just shortly after that. We were all just heartbroken (still are)and in tears especially my daughter who held him until he died. We tried calling around to small veterinary clinics but no one was open on a Sunday afternoon and in a small town. So, we buried the sweet thing on our hillside but what makes this whole thing even worse is that the boy who killed our family pet never apologized to any of us let alone my daughter who shared the pet she treasured so much with all of us. I brought up the fact to my husband that his son has not apologized to my daughter yet and his response was that there is no time limit on saying sorry and that he told him to apologize. Well, my thoughts are that if the apology doesn't come right away, then it doesn't mean as much if anything! Maybe he is not sorry for what he did. Another hard thing for me and the other kids is that we have all seen this kid swing at the bird before trying to get him to go away and I warned all the kids that if they hurt the bird there will be consequences! He is grounded from his Xbox but I don't know how long because my husband and I don't or try not to discipline each other's children. Well, this time I am so heartbroken and bothered by this and haven't gotten over the fact of no apology. I am so proud of my daughter and her pure and forgiving heart, she is heartbroken but not very angry with this child that killed her pet. They are all teenagers but I have taught my children that if you hurt someone or something no matter if it was your fault or not, that you apologize! I think it speaks volumes about their character if they can apologize for their actions if they have hurt someone and if they have a hard time doing so, then we must teach them the right thing to do as their parent. Am I over reacting to be bothered so deeply by this?