âv^âv^ââ¥ - posted on 06/23/2011 ( 42 moms have responded )
This is a branch off of what do you / should you tell your kids their private parts are called.
So far, I've seen....
1. They let their kids name it, and never corrected it. So their kids came up with their own name for it. Ex: ting-ting
2. Parents gave it a fake/made up name. Ex: cookie, weewee
3. Parents told kids its proper name. Ex: penis, vagina
What I'd like to discuss is the possibility that every example, every choice we can make as parents (1,2 and 3) can still be thought of in good and bad terms.
That the name its self is not always what causes kids to feel a certain way about their bodies. That the name its self is usually just a name, and does not describe meaning of that area. Meaning comes from how we describe, handle and feel about those parts and our kids asking about them that passes down to our kids, and that this part of 'naming body parts' is more important to their psyche than the name its self in most cases.
1. What did you tell your kids its parts are called?
3. What did you tell them about their parts?
4. How do they feel about their parts?
5. What do you think is the overall message that you have taught your kids about their parts?
6. What did your parents tell you growing up?