Char - posted on 09/14/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )
This is a new account but Ive been a member for about a year. I lost my password so I just made a new one. My old acct was MommaBird. some of you may remember.
My current need for advice is about boundaries, I am stepmom to twin girls who will be 2 this month. For the most part we have been able to coparent with bio mom without major issues, but we do have concerns that she has been ignoring. Concern #1 is twin A who has been diagnosed with major allergies for over a year. She has been sick, congested, and has breathing problems..mainly at night while sleeping. Bio mom assumes every time A is sick that its allergies and hasnt taken her to Dr in the last year. No allergy meds given besides over the counter, which does not help at all. I suggested getting her adenoids checked or at least taking her back to Dr to see if its more than allergies. She says she works 5-6 days a week and hasnt had time to take her. I offered to take her since Im a stay at home mom but she refuses to let us.
Concern #2 is that they are behind on their immunizations. They havent had shots since 6 or 8 mths old. They will be 2 this month. Same as with Dr appts, she says she didnt have time to take them because of work. I offered to take them for shots also, she just puts it off by saying "I will make an appt soon"....but never does. We dont even have a copy of their shot records.
So my question is...Would I be overstepping my boundary if I just get my husbands approval to make the appts and take them myself? Or Should I let the two of them worry about it and stay out of it? (We have the twins two nights during the week and every other weekend, and he pays child support, not ordered by court, just agreement between them)