Boundaries from a narcissist husband and children

Lillian - posted on 03/23/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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How does a mother protect herself from a narcissist husband and children when she has no choice but to live together

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Jodi - posted on 03/24/2016

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Well, by continuing to live together, you have shown them that they are setting the boundaries. Have they been diagnosed as narcissist....or is this your diagnosis?

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Jodi - posted on 03/24/2016

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So if you are a psychologist, you will know what to do to set those boundaries..........I suspect you are just finding it difficult to put that in place. As I said, somehow, you have already shown them where the boundaries are, even if you aren't happy with them. You are already feeding their narcissism. It is not going to be easy now to stop feeding it, but either that or leaving are the only ways to do so. How old is your daughter?

Raye - posted on 03/24/2016

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Well, the last country that doesn't allow divorce is Philippines. In the Philippines, you can legally separate. You just wouldn't be able to marry someone else. You can also get an annulment for "mental incapacity" if you can prove narcissism, but you need a lot of money for lawyers and possibly bribes. You could also try to get foreign citizenship and divorce in another country, but again that would be an expensive, lengthy process. So, to say you don't have options is not entirely accurate.

You can emotionally distance yourself from them, even if you have to live together. You have control of your emotions, and you can choose to harden yourself against their behavior and not respond to it or allow it to affect you. Find hobbies, find distractions that take your attention away from them and allow you more peace.

Michelle - posted on 03/24/2016

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If divorce isn't an option where you live then also standing up to your husband isn't.
I don't know what advice anyone can give you.

Lillian - posted on 03/24/2016

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I am a psychologist and based on the criteria of the DSM 5 they fall under the category. and in our country there is no divorce

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