boundiries

OLCAY AYSE - posted on 08/10/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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How do u clarify the boundries w your Add child of 7

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OLCAY AYSE - posted on 08/11/2013

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Thank you very much indeed . Iam new for this circle and I am from Turkey , this is my first post :) .
It is hard to follow through and apply it too. I once tried it . made a list etc.. but then it become a poster like ... we couldnt carry on. We dont have much disipline here w children not like you guys. However I want to do it and apply it because he is ADD plus I am a single+working mother. I have to to do it. Just know know how to arrange all the punishment or award system without upsetting us too much. Do u have some samples?And should I arrange the list w him or I should prepare somethings and read it to him and just wait him to accept. Thank you so much

Ev - posted on 08/10/2013

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My child is not ADD but I set the same boundries with him no matter his age as his sister got and taught him what I expected of him. You make it simple but mean what you say.

Tell him the rules and make them where he can understand them.
Set up consequences for those rules if he breaks them and also follow through with them because if you do not follow through then he will think he can get away with it everytime.
Give chores to him to do also. He is old enough to help put away clothing, take care of his dishes from meals at least putting them on counter by the sink or in the dishwasher, picking up his toys in the house and putting them away, making his bed (maybe just able to pull blankets up over sheets but not perfect), take out trash to the trash bin...just to name some. And if he refuses these, he can get things taken away or some sort of consequence you set.

The thing is to follow through on what you decide. That is key to raising any kid. They need to know you will be there and do what you must no matter how difficult it is. It has worked for me with my daughter who has no issues like ADD and my son who has a form of Autism.

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