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Stacey - posted on 12/21/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend seems to be irritated by my kids. Especially when they cry. Everytime I try to talk to him about it he says I need to whip they or put them in the corner if they cry. Or gets mad and storms off cuz he hate my opinion (He has no kid or never around children). What should I do? Stay or just gibe up???

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Jodi - posted on 12/21/2014

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Your boyfriend sounds very immature. Sorry, but any man who thought my kids needed a "whipping" because they were crying wouldn't be worth my time. Especially if he isn't a "kid kind of person". I think you answered your own question right there. He's not going to change.

Mommabird - posted on 12/21/2014

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Doesnt sound like he is a good fit for you and your children. He'd be better off with someone who doesnt have children and doesnt mind catering to his needs.
I personally couldnt love someone who didnt accept and love my children. He either needs to understand THEY are the children here, not him...or he can move on. Our children are our top priority in life and if a man cant accept and support that then they dont deserve to be around.

Mommabird - posted on 12/21/2014

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What irritates him about your kids? How old are the kids? How long has your boyfriend been around them?
My first assumption is your bf doesnt sound like a very compassionate man. Depending on the ages of the kids, the crying is the only way to show emotion and ask for comfort. "Whipping" them is definately not a form of comfort. I would think that no matter what age a child is calmly talking to them is a better way of getting the crying to stop. If its temper tantrums....I know when our 4 yr old gets upset and whines to get his way I make him sit on the couch quietly for 4 minutes(i set a timer) til he is calmed down. When one of our 14 mth old twins starts to throw a fit I sit her in their room with toys around her and walk out. She will stop crying and come out like nothing happened. Basically its best to stay calm and talk to them about what theyre crying or upset about. Yelling, spanking, shunning them to a corner isnt going to make them feel heard. He(and you) need to try and be attentive to their needs and figure out WHY theyre crying. Theyre children....not a television you can just turn off when the sound irritates you. Lol

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Stacey - posted on 12/21/2014

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Thank you. I think its time I ended it with him. My kids are my world. And he'll never understand. You guys have been very helpful

Stacey - posted on 12/21/2014

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What I mean by irritated is when he comes over he expects me to give him all of my attention. he feels like my daughter should just be in the room playing all the time whenever he's around. my daughters are ages 1 & 3.he's only been around them since the beginning of this summer he's not really a kid kind of person and really doesn't have any kids around him. without my kids around he honestly acts like a child himself and I feel likebecause his mother babied him a lot he feels like I should do the same with him and that's not the type of person I am he's 23 years old you're a grown man I should not have to baby you like your mother does.so overall I feel like he thinks my children are taking away from him

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