boyfriend and his son

Jessica - posted on 03/23/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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i need help i cant stand my boyfriends son its been a year and a half dating and the kid doesnt listen. i tried to have patience at first but honestly hes so rude hes 5 yrs old. my boyfriends babys mom is always giving bad faces talking about me 24/7 i obviously dont say anything to be the mature one, i dont know what to do help !

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Dove - posted on 03/23/2016

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Yep, your problem isn't w/ the child... it's w/ your boyfriend allowing his child to have no boundaries and consequences. Kids will generally do whatever they can get away with until they are taught otherwise because humans are wired to be self centered from birth. It's up to their guardians to teach them that the world does not revolve around them, but that they are a part of something much bigger and it's their job (every person) to make a positive impact on the world... not a negative one.

Ev - posted on 03/23/2016

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It might be time to talk to dad seriously and tell him that he needs to be doing some sort of discipline with his son. He is letting his kid get away with everything. If he won't listen to you maybe you should find someone who does not have children.

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Michelle - posted on 03/23/2016

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If Dad doesn't want to step up and be a Father then maybe you need to seriously think about if you really want to be with him. Being a Father includes setting boundaries and discipline.
I think that's the problem you have, not the child. The child is just doing what he can get away with, the Father needs to put a stop to it.

I was also with someone who's ex was very nasty. She would call me "that woman" or "the Bi**". She would say these to her children and needless to say, I didn't stay with him. I told him that he needed to put a stop to it or I would leave, he didn't so I walked. It was better for myself and my children not to be in that situation.

Jessica - posted on 03/23/2016

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i have been with him for a year and a half, he says i dont want to discipline because i dont want him to hate me , i honestly get so annyoed the kid eats on our bed makes a mess and the dad is like hes just a kid its so frustrating.

Ev - posted on 03/23/2016

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Is it the child you can not stand or the mother? Does the father do anything for his rude behavior or not listening? You have to understand this from a child's point of view. Depending on how long you have been in the picture, he may not be exactly sure of you yet. He might be acting out because he might want his parents back together. He also does not know how to voice his emotions for this because it is beyond understanding at his age. He does not know how adults relationships work. AND if he does hear you talk about his mother at all; you do not have to say anything negative about her but he can hear it in your voice and see it in your body language.

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