Boyfriend - daughter

Nadine - posted on 05/05/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi all,

I need some advise please.... I have a 3 year old daughter and my boyfriend wants to leave me due to my daughter. he says that he is not ready for such a big commitment at this time. The complicated part is that we are still crazy in love and he says he doesn't want to loose me, we are not just lovers but best friends as well we known each other for almost three years and I don't think I can hale loosing both. Do I stay friends with him and take things a lot slower and keep my daughter out the picture for awhile or should I just walk away?

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Michelle - posted on 05/05/2015

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At least he's been honest with you. I agree with the other ladies, there's no point being with someone who doesn't accept your child as well.
He may not be ready for 10 years, do you want to wait around for him? He may never be ready. I think it's best to walk away now.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/06/2015

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Let him leave love. If he is not ready to step in as any part of your daughters life, then trying to force him or keep him will turn into resentment on his part. The thing is, if you keep him in your life (in turn your daughters life no matter what you say or do) he may be terrible to her.

If he was truly your best friend he would do anything to make this work. He has told you straight out what he can handle and commit to, and this isn't working for him. Walk away.

Sarah - posted on 05/05/2015

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He is not ready.....and trying to create it or wait is not going to work. It will just add more hurt and complication.

Angel - posted on 05/05/2015

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if he can't accept your child then you don't accept him, anyone who wants to be with someone should accept the child before they accept the parent :)

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