Courtney - posted on 04/23/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )
My boyfriend and I have been together now for 2 years. I have a 6 year old daughter, he has no kids. My daughters father and I were divorced 3 years ago. Her father and I share 50/50 custody. My boyfriend did not meet my daughter until about 7 months after we started dating. They have always got along just have never had a true bond in my opinion. Since she does go back and forth with her father it is hard for me to set rules and make them stick. About 7 months ago my boyfriend and I bought a house together. Ever since we moved in together it seems things have just got worse and worse in my boyfriend and daughters relationship. I have sat her down numerous time to tell her that she needs to obey what he asks of her and when he tells her to do something she is to listen to him just as she would me. He gets very frustrated because it seems like she doesnt listen to anything he says or asks her to do. They bicker back and forth all the time. I try my best to be a loving caring mom to her but to also see his side of things. She just like any other 6 year old sometimes has issues listening. I just look at is as something normal for someone her age, he looks at it almost like shes just a brat who doesnt listen. This is beginning to cause problems in our relationship which is not something I want. He is a good man, just has never been around children. I try to tell him instead of yelling at her to maybe try a different approach and sit her down and talk to her but he claims that doesnt work either. I try my best to please both parties but it is becoming very difficult and I just am at a loss on what to do next. It seems to me like when she is at our house the only things going on between them two is bickering. They never have good conversation, no how was school today or any small talk. Even before she leaves for the week to go to her dads its just like bye and thats it. I just want them to start getting along better and begin to develop a step dad/daughter relationship. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!