Boyfriend is driving my CRAZY!

Alex - posted on 04/13/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )





I am 23 years old and am 9 weeks pregnant. Although this was a surprise pregnancy we are very excited and happy. BUT my boyfriend who is 32 is driving me insane. He seriously acts like an immature teenager. We have only been together for just over a year before I found out I was pregnant, the news was a big shock to both of us. The shock has passed for me but he constantly asks me "are you sure you want to do this?"
"are you just going to leave me when you have the baby?". I reassure him that everything going to be okay, but i truly don't think it will. He himself asks like a child, will not pick up after himself, won't do ANY house work without me begging for his help, and even is he does do something, he does is half assed or its completely undone the next day. I spend 3 hours a day cleaning up and he comes home and destroys everything I've done. I am seriously just sick of the man, anything he does makes me angry.. and I'm sick of having to tell him how to make me happy, like just rub my damn back for twenty minutes or bring me a tea!!! Its not that much to ask but he still won't do anything, its like he seriously doesn't use his brain. And whats going to happened when the baby comes? Am i going to be stuck doing everything an start to hate my life? I feel as if i need time away from him... am I wrong?


~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/13/2016




No, you are not wrong. If he cannot help now, most likely he won't when the baby comes. He sounds lazy. It sounds like you are living together. Is this what you want? Try not to appease him by telling him what he wants to hear. It will not help. Be honest with him about your frustration, and if things don't change, then you need to figure out if this is the right situation for you to raise a baby in. Good luck love.

Jodi - posted on 04/13/2016




Well, he didn't suddenly just start doing this when you got pregnant. How long have you been living together?


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Michelle - posted on 04/13/2016




Counseling could help.
If he's not listening to your concerns you need to make it clear to him that he needs to step up and be an adult for it will be over. You are having a baby and don't need 2.
Just a side question, how did his parents raise him? Did his Mother do everything for him? Was he brought up having everything handed to him? It's hard to get someone to realize what needs to be done if they were never made to do the housework etc.

Alex - posted on 04/13/2016




Yes we are living together and have been living together for almost the whole time we've been together, everything was great in the beginning, but our relationship all happened very fast. Ive always told myself to tough it out and don't give up to soon , but still nothing has changed for us. I want things to work out with us and i know they can because i love who he is just not his bad habits... and when i am honest about my feelings he turns the blame on me somehow and says i need to change but i don't see a problem with an organized life and a clean home .. so it seems like no one is going to change for the relationship..

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