Sara - posted on 10/07/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )
I am looking for opinions on whether or not my feelings on the following situation are unreasonable or not. I am currently in a relationship with a man who has 3 boys (with 3 different women..yeah, I know, not a good sign) and he lived in my house. He gets the boys for visitation on weekends. The oldest (12) comes over nearly every weekend, the middle (7) comes over whenever he wants which is rather infrequent, and the youngest (5) comes over whenever his mother lets him (which isn't too often). I knew when I let my boyrifrend move in that I would have to deal with the baby mama's to a certain extent and accepted that. I even opened up my home for them to take a look at where their children would be spending the weekends (understandin I would require the same if my daughter were sleeping at her father's home). But I felt that one time in my house was enough for them. The mother of the youngest seems to feel that she is entitled to come into my home whenever she feels like it when dropping off or picking up her son. I have told my boyfriend that I felt it unnecessary unless she was concerned with something (which she is not) and my boyfriend feels that I am being unreasonable and that it is not a big deal for her to come in whenever she pleases. What do you all think? Should she be allowed to come in or should drop off/pick up occur at the door/car/outside of my home? Thank you in advance for your input.