Amber - posted on 03/21/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )
I met this guy when my son was only a month old. He's been in his life now this whole time, and the bond between them is sickening (in a good way LOL). We've had the discussions about how I had no problem with him staying in Julien's life if we ever did split later down the line, in fact had even told him I wouldn't forgive him if he walked away from him. He really wants to stay around, even if we do split, and even asked me what Julien would call him as he got older. (This conversation was sparked because I had made the joke "my son will NEVER call you Uncle Josh because of all those stereotypes in movies where the mother sleeps around a lot and introduces the guy as "ucle whatever the name is") I told him that the decision on what he was called was between the two of them. If he didn't feel comfortable being called dad, then that was for him to explain to Julien, not me. He's a great guy, but I'm worried about what's going to happen once Julien's real father comes into the picture. I'm still waiting on paternity tests to be done. The one guy says he will do it but he'd rather the state push for it and not just offer to go do it himself, and the other is refusing to take it until the state forces him to do so, saying they will have to track him down first. I don't want this guy to get his feelings hurt when the real father comes into the picture and I don't want their bond to be broken because of any problems the real father may try to stir up. I feel my son has the right to know who his father is, not only for the hard questions later down the line, but for medical backgrounds too. My bf doesn't want me to push to find out who the father is, I just don't know what to do.