Friday - posted on 12/28/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )
Help. I have been going out with a man for a year and a half (both in our forties). He has 2 teen boys and I have a 7 year old boy. The relationship has been amazing (we are both very healthy people) right up until the subject of long term and parenting my son came up.
He felt unsure that he wanted to be a father to my son (real dad out of picture), Needless to say, this has caused a break up (over the last 8 weeks we have been breaking up and we just rekindled last night). But we are both under an enourmous amount of stress and anxiety because of the unresolved question "will he ever be ready to parent my kid."
We decided that we are going to take some time for him to develop a relationship with my son and see where this can head. But this is SO STRESSFUL.
If he loved me so much...then why is my son an issue AT ALL? I keep going back to this question.
There is so much shame now...all his friends/family (and mine), know about the break up on this "dealbreaker" issue...
I am torn. Do I stay and work through this with him and see how it develops? Or do I cut my loses and move on?
Will this help our relationship grow?
Although we are so into one another...this has caused a big stress in our relationship.
We are at the point we can't function without one another...and if we are together, we are stressed out...
Just got back together last night....